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It’s a number heard so frequently and with so little context that many times, women who are trying to lose weight don’t know if it’s the right way to turn or the wrong one.

I’ve even had some exceptional female coaches on my podcast who criticize the number, claiming it’s too low.

It would be easy for me to cough up some general stats about this as it pertains to my clients but I see 1200 calories come up so frequently in my consultations that I decided to dig deeper and go right to the source.

Some background: I currently train (online and face-to-face) 94 clients. Of that 94, 55 are female (approximately 60%). Of that 55, 48 are with me for weight loss.

I went through every file of these women to check the parameters that dictate where someone might fall to lose fat mass. In case you don’t know the factors involved it’s: age, gender, height, level of daily activity and ratio of fat to lean muscle mass.

There are a multitude of algorithms on the internet designed to help you understand how many calories your body needs just to maintain its current weight and keep your health optimal. Anything less than that number would contribute to weight loss, anything more would contribute to weight gain (if consistent over time).

What did I find? I found that of the 48 women who are currently training with me for fat loss, 12 of them will lose weight on 1200 calories a day (1500 calories at maintenance with a 20% reduction) and an additional 11 will lose weight on 1300 calories a day (1600 calories at maintenance with a 20% reduction). That means that nearly half of all the women I train are on the lower end of a given spectrum for weight loss. I should note that MOST (not all) of these clients qualify as sedentary.

If we remember that all numbers are estimates, there may be some room to wiggle but perhaps not much.

However, let’s zero in on those 12 women who are at 1200 calories a day to lose weight. What do they have in common? For frame of reference the age gap between these women was as young as 22 and up to 71 years of age. They each had about 100 pounds of lean muscle mass. Most of these women are sedentary but a small handful are on their feet most of the day (the way you might consider a teacher or hairstylist). They had a median weight of 150 pounds.

What differentiated the women who need 1200 calories to lose versus the ones who need 1300 to lose? By and large, the women who could lose (at approximately the same rate) who were allotted 1300 calories either had more lean muscle mass or they were more active. When I say active, I don’t mean how often they exercise, rather how active their actual daily life is in comparison. Bear in mind, it seems silly to be squabbling over a 100 calorie difference BUT if you’re dieting, you know how much you appreciate having a 100 calorie buffer.

I was asked by a client once if she could just stay at her 1500 calorie maintenance and just train harder/more frequently. The answer: it depends.

Yes, in theory, you could train harder to lose weight but it’s incredibly difficult to quantify caloric burn even with some crafty and expensive trackers that we wear on our wrists. These are estimates and the body will adjust to your cardiovascular expenditure. So, over time, you’ll have to work harder, longer, faster, or higher to burn the same amount of calories.

This is why we try to focus on “intake” for weight loss as the priority rather than how many calories you “think” you burned in boot camp.

For the record, I don’t like telling a client that 1200 calories is the number to aim for. As you can see, 25% of my clientele is facing that number and another nearly 25% isn’t far off.

I should also add that any person on a fat loss program should embark against any number with skepticism. Could you lose fat mass at 1500 calories a day? Try it. See what happens. If you’re not losing, dial down by 100 calories and watch your trend.

The females I train who are allotted the most calories are either the ones who weigh the most (by comparison to the median 150) or they have substantially more lean muscle mass. A larger person by comparison needs more energy to keep the body functioning at an optimal level. As an individual loses fat mass, calories will need to come down gradually over time because a smaller person requires fewer calories to exist.

I also have to mention that menstrual cycles, hormonal fluctuations, lack of sleep, abundance of stress, medications (anti-depressants, anti-anxieties, blood pressure meds, etc.) and environmental factors can make it hard for any woman to diet.

To this point, there may be times throughout a given month or training cycle when you should not be at a deficit because of the stress it places on your body. For some women, they need to be at maintenance or slightly above during their menstrual cycle.

If you’re constantly training for an endurance event (marathons, obstacle races, etc.), if you’re a competitive athlete (soccer, basketball, lacrosse, etc.) if you’re frequenting HIIT classes, boot camps or CrossFit, it’s likely that 1200 calories is too low for you.

You may find that on your days of high activity, you’ll need to spike your calories up to 1400 or 1500 so that you don’t “bonk” during your intense training time.

It’s important to note as well, since some women claim they cannot lose weight at 1200 calories, to determine if their food tracking is on point. It can be very easy to overshoot (especially if you eyeball food or if you eat out at restaurants often).

The other concern is for the woman who eats 1200 calories a day Monday through Friday and hits 2500 on Saturday. This is common. This can also completely undo an entire week’s progress.

1200 calories is not a one-size-fits-all suggestion. It’s a one-size-fits some. In my case, it’s approximately 1 in 4. That may be different if you compare my clientele against another coach’s clientele.

If you’re a woman who is trying to make 1200 calories work for you, I offer my general recommendations based on the stats/averages I’ve referenced above:

-aim for approximately 100g (roughly 400 calories) of protein per day

-aim for 20-25g of fiber a day

-aim for no less than 25-30g (roughly 225-370 calories) of fat per day

-stay well hydrated, get quality sleep and utilize any stress reduction activities you can

As with any dietary plan or strategy, it may be beneficial to start higher as opposed to lower within a deficit to see how your body adapts. 20% of a reduction from maintenance may be too aggressive for some women.

Most importantly, listen to your body. Take notes. You know yourself better than anyone and ultimately, your body will let you know what’s working and what isn’t.

I should also finish with the kind note that the calories it takes your neighbor to lose weight may not be the same as yours. Perhaps your best friend can lose weight at 1500 calories a day when you need to be at 1200. There are a host of reasons why this might be. Maybe she’s more active in a given day than you (exercise, at work, level of non-exercise activity thermogenesis or N.E.A.T. for short or the way she metabolizes her choice of foods).

It’s my long and short way of saying that 1200 calories a day may be exactly what you need for fat loss success, it could be too high and it could be too low. Each person will have to decide that based on their own set of circumstances.

Below is our very own Jessica, hitting a new personal best of 325 pounds. Should she elect to drop weight (not necessary in my opinion), 1200 could be a goal she’d aim for.

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I’m honored to share the time this week with returning guest, Mike Doehla of Stronger U (Episode #165) and the Revolutionary You debut of Jay Woith of Macros Inc. Both of these guys oversee two of the largest nutrition coaching companies I’ve come across and I knew we would have a great conversation about what we see with our clients. We cover a ton of ground in this one as we talk about calorie expectations, the problems with comparisons, why you need to be self-aware when it comes to your food tracking and more. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review. 

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www.macrosinc.net

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When Kelvin first started working with me, he and his wife had already seen some weight loss success on a version of Weight Watchers. After our initial consultation together, I was able to give him some more pointed insight into caloric goals, macronutrient targets and some thoughts on double tracking against the WW points system.

He did see some more weight loss occur but it was fairly slow coming. After several months working with us, he got his wife Jean training with us as well.

Jean went through a similar consultation but since she is not only female but a smaller person in comparison to her husband, her numbers were invariably different.

We got through the 2019 holiday season together and Kelvin and Jean asked to sit down with me to revisit a weight loss plan so they could both reach new lows together.

They have both been kind enough to let me use their specific information to highlight some major differences when it comes to couples being successful together at weight loss.

I try to always be mindful to say that dieting in and of itself is stressful enough. Having a supportive spouse can be the difference between succeeding or not. The fact that Kelvin and Jean are on the journey together is a really big deal.

Kelvin is in his early 50’s, weighs approximately 210 pounds and has approximately 155 pounds of lean muscle.

Jean is younger than Kelvin (withheld for privacy purposes), weighs approximately 150 pounds and has approximately 100 pounds of lean muscle. It is important to remind the reader that women typically carry more body fat than men, a factor that not only affects hormonal differences between the sexes but can affect ability to lose weight as well.

Comparing the daily activity of each, Kelvin is more sedentary and Jean is on her feet more.

In comparing caloric needs between the two, Kelvin can consume approximately 2500 calories to maintain his bodyweight and Jean can consume approximately 1500 to maintain hers.

Since weight loss is the goal for both, I gave them each a guideline of roughly 15-20% to reduce their caloric needs by.

For simplicity’s sake, let’s look at 20% to compare both.

Kelvin can eat approximately 2000 calories a day and Jean gets approximately 1200 calories a day. Before I go much further on this, I do want to give the disclaimer that they could lose weight on less of a deficit, it would just be at a slower rate.

For conversation’s sake and to highlight some important numbers, I’ll stick with the 20% deficit.

A point to make is that if we use the reference point of 3500 calories per 1 pound of fat, if Kelvin does nothing but change his diet, he will lose 1 pound of fat per week (on average). It will take Jean almost 12 days to lose the same 1 pound.

Of course, we need to consider any additional activity (calories burned) to help expedite weight loss. The caveat I always give is that it is far easier to control intake than it is calories burned. This is why you hear the adage “You can’t outrun the fork”. To be honest, yes you can outrun the fork but you’re not going to like it…

Let’s continue to consider calories for a moment and just compare what meals might look like between Kelvin and Jean. If you split their days up into three meals, Jean could theoretically have three 400 calorie meals. Kelvin by comparison could have three meals just shy of 700 calories each. That’s significant.

This is where I start to see some degree of dietary resentment set in between the sexes. Kelvin gets to eat significantly more and will drop weight faster. This is just one of those unfortunate harsh truths about weight loss between genders.

My advice to them both was to start by getting the diet as predictable as possible. Assuming they can both eat the same types of foods with little variation it would take a bit of practice to nail the portion sizes down and then meal prep/planning can become more automatic. As weight starts to come off and portion sizes become more realistic in line with goals, more variation can be introduced.

Should Kelvin and Jean decide they want to go out for an evening at a restaurant, they could theoretically eat less throughout that particular day so they have more room within the allotted calories to eat out and still try to remain in a caloric deficit.

Since the two of them met with me a couple of weeks ago, their routine of food tracking has already reflected in weight loss for both.

Words I would give to any couple trying to lose weight together:

1. Be Supportive. As mentioned before, weight loss is hard enough as it is. If you have a partner who tells you they support your goals but they come home on Friday with your favorite Oreos because you had a tough week, that is not support. It’s sabotage and it’s not helpful.
2. Plan A Dietary Break. Some people can white-knuckle their way to their weight loss goal. They are not the norm. Get on the same page with your partner about when you will take your first scheduled dietary break. This could be a weekend or a week or two weeks even. This is where you spend the agreed upon time to eat at maintenance before you embark on the next cycle at deficit. Ask each other if it is a 10 pound goal, a pant size, or a timed cycle. In other words, will you diet for 4-weeks and break for 1-week?
3. Know How To Communicate Through The Process. Because dieting is stressful, it’s important to set the guidelines for how you want to stay on path together. If your eating gets a little bit sideways, how do you want your partner to communicate that effectively for you? No one likes a nag but sometimes we all need a gentle nudge in the right direction. Learn those words and that unique vocabulary together so that your inner petulant child doesn’t rebel and head to the pantry.
4. Stop Buying The Trigger Foods. If you know that your partner can level half of a pizza in 2 minutes flat, it’s probably not “safe” to keep up Friday’s pizza delivery service. Some sacrifices have to be made if you want to keep the progress moving. These are not necessarily long-term solutions, but make a pact about what foods you can control versus what you can’t. I talk more about trigger foods here.
5. Celebrate but don’t gloat. Did you drop a pound this week? Congratulations! Maybe your partner was flat or they went up a little bit. Know how and when to mention that your progress is moving the direction you want. This complements #3 in learning how to communicate when one of you has “good news” and the other doesn’t. These things are temporary especially if you have to consider things like menstrual cycles which can invariably affect the way the scale reads.

Below is our RevFit power couple, Kelvin and Jean. They’re learning how to win together. You can to.

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Joshua Shea returns to the show after our first episode together (#156) back in November 2018. He returns to discuss his newest book, something of a companion to his first, also covering the topic of porn addiction. He has co-authored “He’s A Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and a Former Porn Addict Answer Your Questions” with Tony Overbay. In this week’s episode, we talk about the overlap in addiction no matter whether it is porn, alcoholism or other coping behaviors. Joshua also covers when it might be beneficial to enlist the help of therapy if you or someone you know may be struggling with an addiction they need to overcome. 

To learn more about Joshua’s work and to purchase his books, please visit: 

www.recoveringpornaddict.com

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“What made you decide to quit drugs?”

It’s the question I am frequently asked when people hear about my past with drug addiction. The answer is that I reached the point where I couldn’t bear the pain any longer.

You’ll hear this commonly referred to as “rock bottom” and I guess that’s appropriate but it didn’t happen the way that many might think.

I thought, in many ways, that drug use was erasing my pain. In reality, it was just masking it so it could reappear the next day or at a later date. My pain didn’t go away because I never faced it and dealt with it.

Throughout my decade of hard drug use, I saw friends get hospitalized, die, get arrested (some are likely still in jail) and just become vegetables from how drugs affected their bodies and minds. For some reason, that didn’t motivate me to quit.

I was never arrested for drug use, I didn’t have any overdose experiences, and I didn’t have any particular life-threatening events occur.

It boiled down to money.

I was living in Tennessee, working a very stressful job that paid well and allowed me to pay all of my expenses. Strangely enough, I always had drugs and I was always behind on my bills.

I had reached a point of drug use where the only way I would function through my day was to be high from morning until night. Towards the end, it was cocaine and weed. Every other drug had filtered out of the repertoire.

I was living in a house that my father had to co-sign on due to my lack of employment history. Even though I made enough money to pay my mortgage, the lender wouldn’t let me do it on my own because I hadn’t been with my employer long enough.

At this point in my life, I had alienated most of the people around me and most of my drug intake was by myself. I was suffering with some digestive issues that kept me in and out of a gastroenterologist office and I couldn’t find the missing link that was causing this unbearable pain in my stomach. We later discovered that was the stress of my job.

My father called me one day and asked me why I was behind on my mortgage payment. In my state of mind, I wasn’t sure how he knew I’d fallen behind on my bills. Come to find out, he was changing business credit cards for his employer and since I was late on my mortgage it affected his credit score as well as mine. As a result, he didn’t get approved for the card.

I was devastated.

It was one thing to wreck my own life. I couldn’t imagine wrecking his.

I knew I had to stop. This was my lowest (highest) pain point.

That was nearly 14 years ago.

And so, after a decade of usage, I was done.

When I work with clients, the hope is always “change”.

-I want a leaner body

-I want my joints to hurt less

-I want to be toned/more defined.

-I want to look better naked.

-I want my spouse to be more attracted to me

-I don’t want Type II diabetes

-I don’t want a heart attack/stroke

I hear all of these things.

And yet, those same people are not in enough pain to make change stick.

Are they broken? No.

Are they ignorant? No.

Are they weak? No.

They just haven’t reached that point where the pain of their actions outweighs the pleasure they believe they’re seeking.

I’ll caveat this with mental illness. If you are suffering from clinical depression or anxiety, your lowest “pain point” will be the day you go to your doctor and demand that your medication help you and not lead you down a darker path than the one you’re on. Medication can be wonderful for those who need it. If you find that the mental illness you’re struggling with is keeping you from living the healthiest life you can, take the time, effort and energy to get the right medication for your mind and body. You will need that stability to conquer the rest of your goals.

Unfortunately, much like drug addiction, some people never hit rock bottom. Rock bottom is death. That’s a frightening thing to type out.

I’ve seen people on the verge of losing limbs, due to choices they made with food that they were unwilling to change. “Take the limb, I’m not going to eat differently.”

It’s not my place to judge. It’s my place to help.

Whoever you are, whatever battle you face, whatever end result you crave, you have to ask yourself how much pain you’re currently in and if it’s worth the pain/discomfort of changing.

What diet books and diet gurus won’t tell you is that change is frequently painful. It’s painful because it upsets the status quo of your life. It affects your marriage/relationships. It can affect your co-workers. It affects your social life.

Every aspect of your life has been custom built (often by you) to keep you comfortable with the decisions that now make you physically and emotionally uncomfortable. Maybe that’s a 20 pound problem and maybe it’s a 220 pound problem. Either way, there is a moment you’re trying to hit where that problem is so painful that you have to change course.

When you consider that circle of your comfort zone, many people just want to stick their big toe outside of it and go “Ok, let’s get those results!!”

It won’t happen there. You’ll need at least a full limb outside of that circle.

Matter of fact, do the hokey pokey and turn yourself all the way outside of that damn circle (…that’s what it’s all about…)

If you’re not successful at reaching your goals, I challenge that it’s not the diet, not the training, not the motivation/willpower. It’s your level of pain tolerance.

When you decide you can’t take anymore, you will move mountains to see different scenery. You’ll fight, you’ll cry, you’ll lie awake at night, you’ll do the things you didn’t do consistently enough before because the skin you’re in no longer feels right.

That will look different for everyone so this is where you may not want to get lost in the comparison game.

Change is hard. Change is frequently fraught with resistance, frustration, and doubt. That’s “part of the process”.

Before you invest another dime on the next diet fad, HIIT workout, or seek to demonize a food group, take a more important step and ask yourself what your pain is like now.

Is it time to change?

Are you ready for change?

These are the conversations I have with my clients like the ones you see below, people just like you: with jobs, and families and stress and goals.

Left to right: Eric, Bill, Jean, Kelvin (front), Brandon and Pete.

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Susan Niebergall returns to the show after a great first appearance (Episode #94) back in 2017. She has been a champion for women fighting to stay fit through menopause and we definitely have that as a focal point of our conversation in this episode. Susan recently posted a series of videos on Instagram with her thoughts on “The 6 Biggest Fitness Mistakes Middle Aged Women Make” and I loved it so much, I wanted to go into greater detail today. Spoiler Alert: Many of the mistakes women make are also made by men as well! Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review. 

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www.susanniebergallfitness.com

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www.jasonleenaarts.com

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It’s the one thing almost every parent can unanimously agree on: the time with our children just flies by.

Jackson will be turning twelve this week.

I think to myself, how on earth is he already twelve?

I don’t know that I can top this article I wrote about Jackson or this one. They arguably say the most in the best ways that I can express them.

And this past year has been no less remarkable but in a very different way.

Jackson is still much of what he has been: sweet, happy and loving. He still loves Lego’s, movies, singing and dancing. He is still blissfully unaware of the world around him.

A client of mine recently asked: Do you think he’ll ever really communicate?

And my response was: No, he will likely never hold a conversation.

By and large, I think I’m growing accustomed to that. He still knows how to express himself, even if it’s not in conventional ways.

As Jackson nears his teenage years, we have been mentally preparing for the hormonal changes that invariably happen with children as they near pubescent age.

One thing his mother and I were told by the director at his special needs school was that the Jackson we’ve grown so accustomed to could be very different when he hits puberty. He may not know how to express what’s happening with his body.

While I do believe we still have time before those changes really start to take effect, one thing that has been increasing over the last year is some heightened degree of anxiety.

Last summer, he was prone to bouts of overheating and stomach aches. We started to wonder if he was getting anxious about something. He would drink water more frequently and it would take some time for his system to calm down.

As the weather cooled off throughout the year, this became less of an issue.

He has also become more vocal about what he wants and doesn’t want and the fact of the matter is that his little brother, Sebastian, admittedly adds to Jackson’s anxiety.

It’s difficult to interpret the dynamics between my boys: the (nearly) twelve year old on the autism spectrum and the two year old who is neuro-typical. How much of what goes on between two boys with such a disparity in age is simply because of the age gap and how much is due to the barriers in communication?

It’s hard to say. Jackson is comparatively more withdrawn and more introverted. Sebastian is arguably more animated and social.

I’m still fascinated to watch the two of them together. Sebastian loves Jackson. He loves being around him and, more often than not, he just wants to be near his big brother. Jackson, conversely, likes having space to himself.

I think this next year will unveil even more interesting things about my big boy. Before we know it, he will be mainstreaming into a public school where he will require the assistance of an aide to help him get through his day.

This is just a little tribute to the child who has taught me more about patience, compassion and tolerance than almost anyone else in my life.

And yes, time truly has flown by over these last 12 years.

When I write next year’s tribute, it will be to a teenager…

Jackson, you remain a hero to me. There isn’t a day that goes by that you don’t make all of us so proud of you.

Happy Birthday, my sweet little man.

He’s a fitness industry legend and the author of the highly acclaimed “Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle”. Tom Venuto joins me this week for his debut on the show. In this week’s episode, we talk about nailing the basics and the big priorities in simplifying fat loss. You’ll hear plenty about calories, protein, thoughts and strategies on tracking and how to meal plan for success. Tom brings thirty years of experience helping thousands of others and you’ll hear some of that insight in this episode. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review. 

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www.burnthefatinnercircle.com

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Terry and I have been meeting most every week to catch up on his weight loss progress. Due to schedule constraints and some physical things he’s looking to work through, he’s doing his own training at home and circling back to me for accountability on food intake and keeping his mindset in the right place for his goals.

This is also not Terry’s first rodeo.

I’ve been working with him on and off for several years now. Before he met me, he lost a lot of weight (twice) and regained each time. Every time we’ve worked together in the past, there has always been some issue that creeps up that invariably has to halt the training.

So, when we decided to give it another go most recently my questions came back to:

What makes this time different from before?

What will you do differently than before?

Why is any of this important now?

And one aspect of this which was curiously missing from our previous times working together was really getting Terry to wrap his head around caloric intake.

For him, he always looked at food from the lens of “good food/bad food”. This also became “good day/bad day”. I think most people who’ve ventured down the road of weight loss can relate.

However, I kept pushing this issue: this big, overarching calorie “issue” with him because I needed him to really embrace it. Fortunately for me, Terry is in a financial industry. While the parallels of caloric intake and bank accounts don’t completely mirror each other, they sure are really damn similar.

With calories, you’re either eating within the range of what your body requires (relative to your goals) or you’re not. With money, you either make more than you spend or you don’t.

With weight loss, one big problem is that your body won’t just shut off or sound the alarms if you eat more calories than necessary. With your bank account, if you overdraft, you’re going to hit a wall fast (and pay a nasty fee as well).

As Terry and I have continued these conversations, he’s learning more about how he can manipulate and play with certain variables in his diet to keep weight loss going the right direction.

One area where we were in slight disagreement was over the notion of healthy habits. For Terry, there’s something about the word “habit” that has a negative connotation to it. It became a barrier to success.

For him, he likes the word “ritual”.

For some context, when you’re trying to lose weight you generally want some strategies in place that minimize the choices you have to make, reduce decision fatigue, foster more “willpower” when needed and make the general slog of weight loss easier.

I call them habits. Terry likes rituals. We even agreed that “systems” is a good middle ground.

Regardless of your terminology, think about the words that motivate you. Think about the words that confuse or fluster you. Most importantly, think about the words that consistently drive positive change for you.

When Terry and I met up most recently, we also discussed another set of words that could make or break a weight loss plan: Can’t vs Don’t.

I like using those who follow a vegan lifestyle for this example. Not because I’m vegan (I’m not) but because it makes sense to basically everyone.

A vegan will not say: I “can’t” eat animal products. They’ll say I “don’t” eat animal products. That distinction is important to make.

When you say you “can’t” have something, it sounds like punishment. As if you’ve been grounded and Mom and Dad won’t let you have what you want. I don’t know about you but that treatment only made me want something more.

Saying “don’t” is a line in the sand. It’s you in the driver’s seat. There’s no shame, there’s no guilt. It’s simply, I “don’t” do that.

As a recovering addict this makes a world of sense to me. I don’t tell people I can’t have cocaine anymore. I tell them I don’t do cocaine anymore.

In the world of dieting where it can feel as if we are powerless to the food decisions we make, an element of control and the feeling of being in the driver’s seat is crucial for success.

So, I challenge you this week to find the words that make sense to you. Find the words that drive you to success where you have failed before. If someone you seek inspiration from uses a choice of words that doesn’t resonate with you, find the verbiage that does. It matters. The words you use to inspire this journey all matter. They won’t be the same for every person.

Below is our Adam S. He’s lost 25 pounds with us so far and this is his most recent personal record of 465 pounds in the trapbar. Like Terry and like you, Adam has had to find the words that inspire him to succeed as well.

I’d say he’s coming along just fine…

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I’m joined this week by fellow coach, Sivan Fagan who is making her debut on the show with me. Sivan and I discuss her background into fitness which stemmed from an eating disorder and transformed into a body and mind motivated by strength. We discuss how the influence of her father and grandfather helped her stay motivated along the way and how she now inspires others to find the same desire to get stronger in life and in the gym. 

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