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It’s a story I’ve seen play out repeatedly as long as I’ve been coaching and…”it goes a little something like this…”

-I only eat healthy foods and I can’t lose fat…

-My diet is really clean, why is the scale not budging?

-I’m training hard and I cut out all ‘junk food’, why do I still have this (insert problematic body part here)?

And the simplest answer is that, in spite of your well-intentioned efforts, it’s still very likely that somehow, and in some way, you’re eating more than what you realize.

For so many people, they’re able to look at their current diet and say: I’m going to cut out the chips and the pizza and the beer and that should do the trick.

And perhaps, even in the short term, it works.

Until it stops working.

Think about it like this: a small bag of chips (like what you might order with your sandwich at Subway) is roughly 160 calories. That large avocado you’re about to smear on your toast has almost 300.

Please don’t read what I’m not writing. The avocado has indisputably a better nutrition profile (healthy fats and fiber) AND it has nearly double the calories. If fat loss is your jam, you still have to keep a mindful eye on total intake.

It’s also shockingly easy to overeat (and overserve) peanut butter, granola, trail mix, organic dressings, cooking oils, and basically any nut you’ve heard is “healthy fat”: cashews, almonds, Brazil nuts, peanuts, walnuts, pecans, etc.

One of the most widely shared examples of successful fat loss with a diet of mostly “unhealthy foods” is one by Dr. Mark Haub, a nutrition professor out of Kansas. Dubbed the Twinkie Diet, Haub’s experiment wasn’t designed with the purpose of health optimization, but rather to highlight that you could be successful at fat loss even with a diet that’s nutrient poor if the energy deficit is achieved.

More recently, Coach Jordan Syatt filmed an impressive video where he deliberately spiked his blood sugar every day and still succeeded at fat loss because he maintained a deficit as well. This 30 day experiment was meant to push back on the theory that insulin spikes are preventing people from losing fat.

I would never in a million years tell you it’s not worth the effort to improve the composition of your diet. Maybe you do need to reduce things like added sugars, processed grains, alcohol, and any hyper-palatable, ultra-processed foods.

What I will tell you is that, if you’ve improved dietary quality and the scale isn’t budging, my best encouragement is too look more carefully at how much you’re eating: meal by meal, snack by snack, graze by mindless graze.

For the purposes of fat loss, portions matter and if you want the journey to go as smoothly as possible with the best net benefit to your body, the composition/quality of your food matters too.

(Photo courtesy of Thought Catalog)

Once upon a time, Bella (not her real name) struggled with disordered eating behaviors.

She recalls a period of life where it wasn’t uncommon for her to buy a cake and eat half of it in basically one sitting.

For those counting, that could be upwards of 1000-3000 calories.

And the emotions she would go through, those feelings of guilt and shame or failure for not adhering to a stricter food plan, would have their own consequences.

What many people might not consider is that the very act of indulgence could also bring up feelings of comfort or control, all depending on where Bella was psychologically at that time

Today, she is far removed from those behaviors.

However, some of those same feelings around “good foods” versus “bad foods”, still exist.

Foods that might otherwise be defined as junk foods still hold a lot of negative value in her mind.

So, when she consumes them, regardless of how little she eats, she still sees the very act as a negative one.

And despite the fact that she has been successful and moderately losing fat over the last month we’ve been working together, we’re still trying to unpack a lot of that negative and maladaptive messaging.

She recently was hard on herself for having some sweets and some popcorn, but once we looked a little bit further into the details, it was only a couple of hundred calories worth, a far cry from what the days of cake could contribute.

And I reminded her of a thought around the magnitude of effect.

Emotionally, part of Bella’s mind is telling her that popcorn and sweets are “bad foods” and consuming them is taking her off course.

Logically, they were hardly worth worrying over.

And when we talked about that, about the growth and healing she’s had to overcome to put that one part of her life in the rearview, it still helps to reframe what’s happening with food.

Popcorn isn’t bad.

Sweets aren’t bad.

Cake isn’t bad.

What can make a difference is the story that we can tell ourselves, the mental gymnastics of what that effect is against our goals.

Truth be told, even if she had recently lapsed into half a cake again, it’s not the calories that would be the biggest concern, it’s the emotional weight she’d carry for having consumed the portion she did.

Most food decisions, even the overindulgences, can be corrected and it doesn’t take a 180 degree turn.

But it does take some self-compassion and some patience to remind ourselves that food serves so many purposes in our lives.

Food can be fuel, and love, and comfort, and happiness and often all at the same time.

Sometimes we just need a little reminder that the magnitude of effect may not be quite as detrimental as we once thought.

And we can take a deep breath, step back from the proverbial cliff and get back to viewing food from a lens without quite so much shame, and doubt, and guilt.

(Photo courtesy of Kaouther Djouada)

Every year that passes, since I started Revolution Fitness & Therapy in 2009, is another year I’m amazed by.

And while I am seldom at a loss for words, it does become slightly more difficult for me to express what each passing anniversary means to me.

People may ask you throughout your professional career: Where do you want to be in 5 years…in 10 years…

And I’ve never known how to answer that, especially with regard to RevFit.

What business looked like 10 years ago, was not what it looked like 5 years ago, and 5 years from now, when I fully hope and expect to be writing about our 22nd anniversary, I’m not entirely certain what that reality will look like either.

Some constants remain.

We will continue to do our best at being Northeast Ohio’s premier semi-private personal training facility.

We will continue to nurture and support the goals of a diverse range of clientele, personalities, body sizes and shapes with an environment that (we hope) makes people want to come back for more.

We will continue to push our education forward to keep learning more about how strength training and nutrition can help you live your best life.

We will continue to be the self proclaimed “Center For Misbehaving Adults”, a title we seem to reclaim every single day.

And I will continue to be grateful.

Grateful for the staff who shows up with me day in and day out to provide these services.

Grateful for the community who give us the opportunity to open our doors and keep them open.

Grateful for the people who continue to spread the word about us, by inviting friends and family to be a part of what we do.

Grateful to clients both past and present for helping to inform and broaden the work we do.

Grateful that I can support my family in an industry where the average personal trainer may only last a year or less before they burn out and change fields.

When I opened up in 2009, never in my wildest dreams did I know what year 17 would look and feel like.

But I’ll be damned if I’m not immensely proud of how far we’ve come.

So, no matter who you are, if you’re reading this, thank you in large part or small for being here and allowing a little dream to turn into something really special.

On behalf of myself and the crew at RevFit, thank you.

And a little line to leave you with that I’ve been using more often lately…

Greatness happens here.

You should join us.

Have a conversation around fat loss and somewhere, somehow carbohydrates will likely come up in conversation…

-Well, I’m cutting back on my carbs

-I was low carb-ing it last week to give myself a kickstart

-Every time I eat carbs I feel bloated

And it’s helpful to understand “why” this may be happening.

For one, I normally need some clarification:

“What types of carbs are you cutting out?”

And it may be some combination of white starchy carbs like potatoes, rice, pasta, bread, etc.

Or it may be something that seems more carb-heavy but can actually be an energy dense carb-fat combo like pizza, cookies, cakes, crackers, or chips.

Because when I drill down a bit further, I rarely hear of people cutting out fibrous vegetables (those are carbs) and some of the fear-mongering around fruit is starting to die down (also carbs).

However, one thing that can be frustrating about carbs is the fact that they hold 3-4g of water per gram.

So, if you’re consuming 200g of carbs per day from a variety of sources, you may also be holding on to 600-800g of water as well.

Slash that intake down to 50g of carb per day, like many keto enthusiasts might do, and you’re dropping 450g-600g of water from your body.

Chances are, you’ll notice that on the scale as well.

And for as much as those of us in the fitness space champion protein intake, the other variable worth focusing on is fiber.

And where do we find fiber?

Grains, nuts, seeds, legumes, fruits and vegetables. All of which are predominantly carbs (although nuts, seeds and avocadoes have some fats in them and legumes have some protein.)

The other thing that we tend to notice is that people who are getting in an appropriate amount of carbohydrates tend to perform better with physical activity, as the body will tend to favor that fuel source to help get you through your workouts.

However, just as every digestive system is uniquely different not everyone can tolerate carbs in the same amounts or even from the same sources. I’ve written a lot about this on this website when looking into the low FODMAP approach for IBS and IBD.

So, while you may need to experiment a bit to find the right sources and the right amounts of carbohydrate containing foods that agree with you, it’s an experiment worth working with.

The gut microbiome thrives on fiber diversity and sometimes people can become so fixated on driving the scale down that they forget to give their digestive system the type of “good bacteria” that keeps everything functioning appropriately. And here’s a hint: probiotics won’t be the answer for everyone.

If you’ve ever heard the term: “build a colorful plate”, you can credit the wide array of colors from carbohydrate containing foods.

And ultimately, who doesn’t want the most efficient and effective body they can get?

Yes, for some people, they can cut back on the sweets or some of those fat-carb combos mentioned above to help see better success on the scale.

But for everyone else, you have a huge range of beneficial foods to pick from to help you reach your goals and optimize your health.

Maybe cutting carbs isn’t the answer after all.

(Photo courtesy of Engin Akyurt)

A client of ours took some time off from training here and returned after several years away.

When she came back, she mentioned that she had been on a GLP-1 to help with fat loss.

I asked her how everything was going on the medication.

“It’s been life changing.” she said.

And she added: “Now I know how skinny people feel.”

“What do you mean by that?” I asked.

“It never dawned on me until I got on the medication, that I didn’t need to finish my plate.”

I’ve never forgotten that conversation.

I’ve been in a smaller body all of my life.

Some people think it’s because I never eat “junk food” but that’s not true.

Some people think it’s because I spend a lot of time working out or counting every calorie that goes into my mouth but neither of those is true.

There’s a term that been coming up more frequently over the last several years that I want to highlight and that term is “dysregulated appetite.”

And the easiest way for me to explain it is to think of it like a signal.

For someone who has struggled with their weight for most of their life, they may eat a meal that “should” satisfy them and allow the gut to send a signal to the brain that the body is satiated and eating can cease.

But the signal isn’t clear.

It’s distorted or delayed or compounded with other sensations in the body so that this person continues eating even though they “should” be reducing their portions to help with fat loss.

In my case, and I’ll only speak for my lived experience, those satiety signals are often very clear.

For example, yesterday I went out to lunch with my mother and my oldest son, Jackson.

I wasn’t overly hungry but I also didn’t want a heavy meal like burgers and fries or pasta.

So I ordered a flatbread pepperoni pizza that came off the appetizer menu.

When it arrived, it was sliced into 8 pieces, and according to the menu, each slice was approximately 130 calories.

I made it about halfway through and I already knew I wasn’t going to be able to finish it.

Sure enough, I left two slices behind, which my son was more than happy to finish for me.

That signal, in my case, was letting me know that if I kept up the eating, I would go quickly from satisfied to uncomfortably full.

And this is pretty normal for me.

I wasn’t saving those extra pieces because I was concerned about calories. I was saving them because I really don’t like feeling uncomfortably full.

But for someone whose signal is less clear, they keep eating not directly because of discipline or willpower (although they play a role), rather the signal isn’t firing loudly enough to get them to stop.

Fullness means something different to them.

Satisfaction from a meal means something different to them.

Stress, trauma, grief, personal relationship to food, and our relationship to our body image all play a role in how we respond to our appetite.

And in the case of my returning client, and the many people who’ve had similar results on a GLP-1, the medications can make living with a dysregulated appetite much easier.

No, the medications may not “teach” someone how to reverse the dysregulations but they can make other health promoting actions a lot easier in consideration of the big picture.

(Photo courtesy of Emanuel Ekstrom)

I keep a desk calendar in my office and was turning the page from March to April when I noticed a day on April 14, recognized as Holocaust Remembrance Day (although this day is different each April.)

I haven’t written a great deal on this website about my Oma, my father’s mother.

There is so much I want to write but I know that when I take that project on, I want to involve more than just my own memories.

However, there are two memories of note that I wanted to share this week: the earliest one I can recall when I was first told by my father about my Oma’s experience in the concentration camps, and one of the last memories I have when I was able to visit her before she passed in 2015.

Sometime in the early 80s, our family had been transferred to Lawton, Oklahoma.

My Oma and Opa came to visit us and I was probably close to 5 years old at the time.

Like many young boys, I enjoyed some manner of “cowboys and Indians” or “cops and robbers” and I had a small collection of toy guns in my room.

Excited to show one of them off, I wandered into our living room to show the gun to my grandparents and my Oma started shrieking.

My Opa, in no uncertain terms, let me know that I shouldn’t bring a gun around Oma.

At the time, I didn’t understand.

So, I took that gun back to my bedroom, found another toy gun that perhaps they would like better and went back to the living room.

Again, the same expression from my Oma.

Again, the same admonishment from my Opa.

At which point, my father took me back to my bedroom and told me, for perhaps the first time in my life, that my Oma had survived the concentration camps in World War II and that I could not bring any toy guns around her.

My Opa passed in 1993 and during his life, rarely did I hear my Oma speak about the camps.

What I did see, what we all saw, was the reminder she kept about the camps, a “stamp” of identification on her forearm with the numbers 81830.

It was only after Opa passed that Oma began to share more about the camps, in bits and pieces, with many of us in the family.

Fast forward to around 2014 and we were visiting Oma at her home in North Carolina. She would have been around 92 at the time.

There is a book, perhaps you’ve heard of it, called “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Viktor Frankl. It is typically referred to as a must-read book because Dr. Frankl, like my Oma, was also a Holocaust survivor.

I had just read the book prior to our visit and I asked her if she had ever heard of it.

She had not.

I said: You know, Oma, he was also a survivor at the camps. He was in four different camps including Auschwitz (a location they shared in common, though likely at different times.)

She looked at me and said: Four different camps. My oh my, I was in fourteen!

And it was then that I was reminded how little I knew about what she had experienced and how she managed to survive.

What I do know is that despite what she endured in those camps, Oma was never anything but kind, considerate, thoughtful, and loving.

She is a consistent reminder for me that kindness should prevail over everything else.

Some books I would encourage everyone to read:

-The Choice: Embrace The Possible by Edith Eger

-The Happiest Man On Earth: The Beautiful Life Of An Auschwitz Survivor by Eddie Jaku

-Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl

1: Finding a movement practice that you can start with and become consistent with is the first rock to move. That might mean consistently walking, doing yoga, taking Pilates, or starting a strength training program. Don’t fuss over what the “best” thing is to do. At the beginning, it’s about finding a practice you can do to make the routine part of your lifestyle.

2: Aiming to be sore after a workout is not a great marker to measure against. Soreness could be an indication that you are not recovering appropriately.

3: Beginners in strength training tend to make quick progress over the first year or so. After that, progress generally slows down and it can take more effort, time, and focus to reach new records in the gym.

4: Look for the gaps. If you’re currently lifting weights consistently, look to see if you need to level up on adding in cardiovascular exercise. If you do yoga or Pilates, you probably need to start incorporating strength training.

5: You’re going to reach a point in your training where several workouts per month will probably feel like they were a waste. They’re not. Some workouts will feel like trash, some will be okay, some will feel great. This is normal.

6: One of the most difficult things to bounce back from isn’t injury or illness. It’s taking a considerable amount of time off. You can train around most injuries. You can start back slowly after you’ve come off of being sick. But if you’re taking weeks off from training it is so incredibly difficult to put that time back into your schedule. I don’t subscribe to the philosophy of #nodaysoff but I do think you need to keep a steady routine of training without walking away from your movement practice altogether.

7: If your last 2-3 reps of an exercise are basically the same speed and intensity of your first 2-3 reps, you’re not challenging yourself enough.

8: If the only training you’ve been doing is training to “feel” a certain way, start documenting your training. Try to beat previous weights, reps or sets. Conversely, if all you’ve ever done is document everything, take a break and train to “feel.” You will likely appreciate the difference between the two.

9: Vomiting and passing out are not badges of honor. Training should give back to your life, not take away from.

10: Authors Chris Crowley and Dr. Henry Lodge said it best (and I’m paraphrasing): Your body does one of two things: growth and decay. You get to choose which one it will do.

11: If you’re looking for longevity with your life, lifting weights is going to be hard to beat.

12: Start at any age. If the first time you lift a weight is the age of 70, by God, do so and make the best of it. Your body will thank you.

13: Unless you’re competing in lifting, there is no exercise that you absolutely have to do. Some may have more benefit than others to cross over for activities of daily living but don’t think you need to put a barbell on your back to squat. You just need to start squatting and get better and stronger.

14: I’m going to share a little something with you from 18 years of coaching. A sentiment shared by more women of a certain age than ever before. After years of caring for others, women are coming in and saying: I need to take care of myself for once. And I need to be strong. Ladies, this is your sign to get started. Get started soon, and don’t ever, ever, stop taking care of yourself.

15: Injuries may happen. This can be one of the risks of pushing your body. The goal is to minimize the frequency of injury, to reduce the length of time you’re in recovery and to find ways to train around the injury.

16: No matter what size or shape you are, how your move your body can contribute to a level of confidence that few other things in this world can give you. When you see what your body is capable of, you will find ways to treat it with more respect.

17: Our current eldest client, Richard (86) once said: I’m here to train so that I go as long as humanly possible without my family having to take care of me. Amen to that, Richard.

18: Don’t let your former glories discourage you from where you are now. All that matters is the best you can give at this moment. Let your best effort now inform what happens tomorrow.

19: There is no perfect workout plan. There are plans that ebb and flow with the demands of your life. Show up for them and make modifications in real time to let them complement what life is currently throwing your way.

20: Having a community to support your training goals is invaluable. Yes, some people can get by training solo in their basement, garage or at a gym. They are not the rule, they’re the exception. For everyone else, find your crew. It will take you further than you can imagine. I know a place…

I’ve been thinking a lot about respect lately.

It’s a conversation Marissa and I have been having with our son, Sebastian, as well.

The sentiment being: that we encourage him to be kind, to be considerate, to be respectful…

And also, that’s it’s possible to be both nice and to not allow yourself to be disrespected.

Respect, I’ve found, can be a heavy word.

It’s something that I think many people can relate to not always giving where it’s due.

As the adage goes: respect is not given, it is earned.

I look back through the pages of my own life and I can see where, when I had no respect for myself, I, in turn, had little respect for others.

And it was in those moments, I would commit many of my gravest mistakes as a human being.

I’ve listened to stories told by my mother, stories told by my father (before he passed away in 2011) and stories I still hear from my maternal grandmother (pictured below, who just turned 93 this week) and I hear countless examples of where respect was granted and where respect was lost.

I write these words as a father, a son, a husband, and my life tends to work much better when I work from a place of respect.

Respect for myself, first and foremost.

Respect for others, as a result.

Easy words to write, much harder to live and demonstrate.

I believe, that when we can work from a foundation of respect, we listen better, we care more deeply, we pay attention to signals our bodies give us about when to press the gas and when to pump the brakes.

It’s not a perfect process, it’s not a perfect philosophy, it’s flawed and nuanced and fraught with periods where it all goes off track.

It’s a sentiment that’s been a consistent thread in our home, in our family’s conversations, and I believe it will remain something we talk about for many years to come.

I believe it takes a certain degree of self-awareness to see where it’s missing in your life.

I also believe that when we have it, and show it, the world inside us and around us tends to improve.

I know how it was taught to me, and even though it has not always been at the forefront of my mind and my behaviors, respect is something I try to always bring back to the center.

And I hope you’ve found a place for it in your life as well.

Back around the time I got started in this industry, circa 2007-08, fasting was seeing a resurgence in popularity.

While fasting itself has been around for centuries, part of the recent popularity surge was its effectiveness for fat loss.

Advocates of fasting will often cite improved cognitive function, better mental clarity/focus, and their ability to handle and manage their hunger signals.

That being said, fasting is often contraindicated for those struggling with eating disorders.

When I was watching fasting protocols regain momentum in the fat loss world, there were two protocols in particular which appeared to be the most popular:

-A 16:8 protocol with a daily fasting window of 16 hours and an 8 hour eating window.

-A weekly 24-hour fast, often fasting from dinner of one day to dinner the next.

Of course, there are myriad ways to utilize a fasting protocol, using shorter or longer fasting periods and also, alternating days of fasting.

While fasting is not magic and when studied in metabolic wards where calories and protein are matched against a consistent energy deficit, both dietary methods work with the same level of effectiveness.

Ultimately, any diet tool you can stick with consistently is likely going to have the best results.

I do want to give a rough breakdown of how fasting might work to your benefit and how it might work against you.

Let’s start here.

We’ll assume that your body’s current maintenance calories are 2000 calories per day to stay at the same body weight.

This also correlates to 14,000 calories per week.

It’s roughly estimated that 3500 calories equals one pound of fat.

The numbers aren’t perfect but we want a guideline to work against.

One approach might be to reduce daily calories by 500 to drop you down to 1500 a day (10,500/week)

After one week, you “should” be down one pound of fat.

One person might decide to keep themselves at a relatively consistent energy deficit throughout the week to achieve this drop in fat.

Another person might utilize a fasting protocol to do the same.

Bear in mind, that if you use a 16:8 protocol, it doesn’t mean you’ll automatically be in a deficit. It’s still very much possible to consume at least 2000 calories during your 8-hour eating window.

However, if that protocol makes it easier for you to hit 1500 calories, perhaps it’s a good tool.

If you opt for the 24-hour fast, you’ve removed upwards of 2000 calories from one day of the week, but you’ll still need to find the space in the remaining 6 days to account for the additional 1500 reduction. One way to do it, is to change your deficit from 500 a day to 250 a day. This will still get you to the same weekly goal.

One thing to note is what happens to your carbohydrates. Carbs hold 3-4g per water per gram of carbohydrate. If you’re seeing large drops in carb intake, “water weight” will also be reduced which usually shows up on the scale too.

As the adage goes, if you see a fast drop in the scale, that’s probably water weight and if you see a fast rise, that’s also probably water weight.

A couple I currently train, were recently telling me about a particular fasting protocol which worked for them sometime back: a 48-hour fast followed by a one day feeding.

Using our 2000 calorie example, that’s 4000 calories removed from the diet during each fast and the same fast is completed twice in a week:

Theoretically, 8,000 calories are removed from the diet over the span of one week. That’s just over 2lbs of fat lost per week, even if the feeding days are brought back up to 2000 calories.

It should be noted that if you’re engaging in high intensity activity like boot camps, CrossFit, HIIT classes, etc., fasting protocols may reduce your energy levels.

In addition, with as much talk as their is around retaining lean muscle during a fat loss phase, you will likely find it much more difficult to hit your protein goals week after week if you follow the aforementioned 48-hour fasting protocol. As a result, you may end up losing more muscle than you wanted to.

What I will say is that I’ve done some fasting protocols myself and I’m not personally a fan. I have an active lifestyle and I prefer to be fueled appropriately throughout the day.

In practice, I have had many clients experiment with fasting protocols during their time training with me. While most will see results initially, the novelty tends to wear off and once old habits return, I find it’s harder for people to come back to their fasting programs.

As with any dietary method (I’m not referencing fasting for religious purposes), if you feel that fasting helps you get closer to your goals, by all means utilize it.

And if you feel that it leaves you ravenous, lethargic, or frustrated with your results, perhaps another tool may be better.

(Photo courtesy of MacDonald Almeida)

When Melanie (not her real name) came to work with me, one of her main goals was fat loss.

What we saw when we looked a bit deeper into her lifestyle habits was that her sleep routines were a big area of opportunity.

Melanie is married, raising two children under the age of 10, and she knows, as many mothers do, that the time you get with your children moves at a rapid pace.

You don’t get those years back.

So, time spent teaching habits, going over homework, feeding, nurturing, cooking, cleaning, etc. in efforts to provide for the household are tasks that feel and often look like a more than full-time job.

And when the end of the night rolls around, there are the bedtime routines of the children, and that precious amount of space where Melanie can decompress, spend time with her husband and drift off to sleep.

Where on Earth is there time to focus on her health?

I won’t go far into the belief that we “all have the same 24 hours” because, while the clock still moves at the same pace for everyone, what that time looks like is very different from one to another.

In Melanie’s case, we needed to zoom out on those 24 hours, specifically, the waking hours, and find out, where can we possibly increase the time spent sleeping, so that not only is she getting longer, more restful sleep, but that the remaining hours in the day are as productive as possible.

What we saw was that, if Melanie slept longer, her cravings for sweets was reduced.

If the cravings were reduced, she was eating in a deficit.

If she was eating in a deficit, she saw better progress on the scale.

If she saw better progress on the scale, she felt better about herself.

If she felt better about herself, she felt she had more mental and physical bandwidth to work out.

And if she worked out, she improved her energy levels for the day.

Nearly everything improved in the span of a day, if and when, she made sleep hygiene her number one focus.

There’s a caveat though…

Focus in one place might mean sacrificing time in another.

It might mean slightly less time with her children getting them to bed, or reading shorter bedtime stories.

It might mean slightly less time with her husband.

It might mean slightly less time decompressing (or doomscrolling) on her own.

10 minutes here, 10 minutes there, 20 minutes elsewhere…just to improve her sleeping time by 30-40 minutes each night.

It wasn’t a plan meant for perfection.

It was a plan that, when it worked, improved the next day by significant measure.

And maybe sleep isn’t YOUR issue.

Maybe it’s fitting in time to exercise.

Maybe it’s finding time to meal prep.

Maybe it’s carving out 30 minutes of peace, meditation, or time otherwise to yourself where you can focus on just you.

Time spent in one area is time taken away from someplace else.

Everything comes at a cost.

And this is not a post telling you what you SHOULD do.

It’s a post to get you to explore what’s missing in your life and how to add it back in.

Because if other areas of your life are going to be compromised, make sure it’s in exchange for something that truly benefits you.

(Photo courtesy of Alexandr Ledogorov)