Revolutionary You! #217-Sumi Singh: Mom Strong

As she has just recently re-released her e-book, “Mom Strong”, it was time to bring Sumi Singh back on the show, this time for a solo episode. If you would like to hear our previous conversations with her coach, Lyle McDonald, please reference episodes #99 and #149 respectively. In this episode, we talk about the needs and concerns of new moms and not-so-new moms to help get their bodies back on track after bringing children into the world. Sumi discusses time constraints, dietary expectations and realistic timelines for what can be achieved for moms when they want to put the gym back into their lives. You can learn more about Sumi at http://www.shailafitness.com (where you can also order a copy of Mom Strong) and you can follow her work at http://www.facebook.com/sumi.singh.35 and on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/shailafitness To learn more about your host, check out http://www.jasonleenaarts.com and http://www.revfittherapy.com You can also like our Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/revolutionaryou Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Boys Don’t Cry (And They Sure As Hell Don’t Ask For Help.)

I’ve been talking about sexual abuse for nearly two decades now.

My own brush with it occurred nearly 40 years ago and when I wrote this article earlier this year, I felt a certain sense of finality with it.

Being sexually abused was something I felt I could compartmentalize well and put into a nice pretty box and set it aside in my life.

I felt the same with being a drug addict.

In other words, when you spend enough time putting certain parts of your life in your rearview, it gets put into one of these boxes and can basically stay safely tucked away, you know…over there.

But that’s not exactly how it’s worked for me.

Being a victim of abuse and having the addict background gave me certain advantages as a coach. I had a different perspective on trauma and a different lens to view coping mechanisms through. It helps with things like weight loss.

And, as I’ve been learning over the last few months, being a victim of sexual abuse doesn’t exactly allow for being put in a box.

There are things, professionally, that I feel have benefited from my background. And there are things, personally, that have not benefited.

This is frustrating because, we as humans, like closure. We can put the bad in it’s place and leave the good out for all to see.

As I’ve been learning (and re-learning) more about how the abuse affected me, I find myself more unsettled, not less so.

It’s forcing me to open up the wound, pry it wide and expose it for all it was worth.

The tough thing about trauma is that you want it buried completely but it never really goes away. It just festers about keeping you cognizant of it’s existence.

There is the tendency to compare trauma against someone else’s. As in, your pain was worse or more frequent than my pain, therefore mine must not matter.

But it does matter. And the more I tried to tell myself that it didn’t, the more it’s managed to prove me wrong.

Unfortunately, not a lot of men are talking about this. That makes it feel even more isolating than it already is. Depending on where you pull your stats from, the numbers are either 1 out of every 10 or 1 out of every 6 that can make the claims that I do. I would expect those numbers to be higher because there is still too much stigma around men admitting they were child victims.

Admitting this when I was in my late teens/early twenties, was fraught with enough tension and sadness. I dealt with it through suicide attempts, suicidal ideation and a total of 5 hospitalizations within 2 years.

Now, I don’t even think about suicide. Not even close. Nor do I feel remotely depressed.

I’m angry mostly. Angry, that I still have to deal with this bullshit for what some waste of life did to me nearly 40 years ago.

I never had a fear of crying. I was raised by two loving and devoted parents who taught me, correctly, that it was okay to cry and okay to show emotion.

So I did.

Until my father passed away and now I rarely cry. It’s too painful to do so.

When I needed help with anything in the past, it was my parents I knew I could turn to. They never let me down.

But it’s hard to turn to your parents about sexual abuse when neither of them ever experienced it. So, my little “secret” wasn’t unveiled to them until I was in college…years and years after it happened.

So now I find myself asking for help again. Help to sort through the trauma of sexual abuse. Patterns and behaviors in my life that I attributed towards the grief of losing my father were actually all stemming from the abuse.

It’s been easy to convince myself that so many things in my life I had under control. That’s one of the issues with victims of abuse, they have a tendency to control things. And why not? We couldn’t control the traumatic event, so as adults we have to exert control elsewhere. It’s our only defense.

This post is a call to anyone, especially other men in the fitness industry, to speak up. Speak up if it happened to you. Because your story needs to be told and it needs to be heard.

I won’t go on a crusade about it but I also won’t drop it.

What I’ve found after nearly 44 years on this earth is that avoiding the trauma and treating it like it was just some “thing” that happened is coming back to haunt me. And I don’t want to be haunted by it, I’ve got too many good things going on in my life to be pinned down by a memory that refuses to let me go.

The picture you see below is me at roughly the time in my life that my babysitter abused me.

I’ll never get that child back. There is a part of me that is essentially frozen in time and I don’t know how to save him.

But I’ll learn.

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Revolutionary You! #216-Yegor Adamovich: Mental Aspects Of Physical Transformation

Yegor Adamovich a.k.a The Soviet Samurai makes his debut on the show this week. In this episode, Yegor takes his own experience battling and conquering weight loss in his own life and utilizing the tactics he uses with his clients to help them achieve success as well. In his words, this episode is about “How Not To Quit.” To learn more about Yegor’s work, check out www.instagram.com/thesovietsamurai and www.facebook.com/yegor.adamovich To learn more about your host, visit www.jasonleenaarts.com and www.revfittherapy.com You can also like our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/revolutionaryou Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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A Tale Of Two Clients

Last week, I had two different case scenarios of client interventions and I wanted to share them with you in this week’s post.

I had given some of this information to my closed community on Facebook but since then more has been discovered.

Both of these clients are females. Client A is in her 50’s and Client B is in her 40’s. Both clients are working professionals, married and mothers.

Client A has lost approximately 20 pounds with me so far. She has battled some injuries which make it difficult for her to exercise consistently. The goal has been to continue to work on her dietary intake so that weight loss could continue despite the absence of exercise.

In the past, Client A has had a fair amount of variety in her diet. She doesn’t eat junk food and she doesn’t drink alcohol. When she overindulges, she is simply eating too much of the “healthy” stuff.

I had suggested that she get some more consistency with her meals. I wanted to see less overall variety and more predictable meals that had less room for error. When she nailed this, weight continued to come down.

Recently, Client A has been dealing with another set of physical drawbacks which has been both physically and mentally frustrating. As a result, a few pounds crept back up.

At this point, her motivational drive was wavering.

I asked Client A to give me a detailed breakdown of her diet:

Breakfast: 3 eggs and 1 cup asparagus

Snack: 1/4 cup macadamia nuts

Lunch: 5 oz. of salmon with 1 cup of green beans

Snack: Seasoned seaweed

Dinner: A repeat of lunch or breakfast.

Morning coffee with 2 tbsp heavy cream

I asked about food preparation (butter, olive oil, etc.) but these numbers were marginal in the grand scheme of things.

So, taking into consideration that there may be some human error we’re not catching, I just asked her to remove the macadamia nut snack for a little bit of time and see if the needle starts moving the right direction again.

The snack is approximately 240 calories and that adds up over time so I just wanted to see how things would shift.

We agreed she would do more frequent check-ins so I could keep a rough estimate of what intake was in reality.

On the next day, she had (as she called it) a “petulant child” moment. She did remove the nuts but she added calories elsewhere that weren’t part of the regular plan. There’s no judgment on my end, shit happens.

And then the “a-ha” moment occurred. Per her words:

“A lesson revisited about mindless VS. mindful eating. Tracking is ridiculously helpful. I see the little things that add up and slipped in that took place of other things. I disregarded as “too nominal to be significant “. Tasty 1/2 or 1/4 of an avocado here and there, 1/8 tbs butter in my beans. So I found where that (extra) 5 lbs came from. Interestingly enough, when I track I don’t eat when I’m not hungry. Today, I’m having tea, no coffee, because it requires no cream. Now to pound my water. I have a 50 oz goal on top of the tea (16 oz). Had bread and butter pickle slices as a snack. Lunch is sautéed shrimp and green beans. Forgot to take photo but will track everything.”

For the record, tracking can be incredibly powerful and helpful for those who utilize it correctly. It served to be the eye-opener for Client A. Now, we just keep an eye on the intake and watch the scale reward her for the diligence.

Client B hired a well-established nutrition coaching organization to kickstart her weight loss before she started training here. She saw 8 pounds come off her frame but was disappointed at the lack of results. By her admission, she wasn’t perfect with her diet but she was hoping to see better results than just 8 pounds.

When I crunched her numbers on my end, my caloric goals and macro goals were mostly in line with what the coaching organization came up with. Her nutrition coach had advised that she start strength training in efforts to keep things moving the right direction.

I noticed that her weight really hadn’t changed much since she started here. We talked about where things went right and where they could potentially be going wrong. In Client B’s case, she would have a handful of “good days” and then get frustrated if the scale didn’t move and essentially blow the progress with some “bad days.”

I am not keen on the notion of good and bad, only that some days you eat within your goal and some days you don’t. There is enough guilt and shame in dieting that I try my best not to compound the emotion with more of it.

I had relayed the story of Client A to Client B and remarked that it had been helpful for Client A to have a very consistent diet. Client B replied “I would be more consistent too if I was actually eating what I enjoyed!”

Client B doesn’t enjoy eating “health food.” She doesn’t like salads, she wasn’t enjoying protein shakes, etc.

So, I asked her what she actually enjoyed eating.

Client B said that she liked having eggs for breakfast. She also liked a McDonald’s cheeseburger with fries and for dinner she liked Applebee’s Chicken Wonton Tacos. In addition, Client B enjoys drinking several nights a week.

I got online and started crunching the numbers.

I asked her if she would be willing to make a dietary compromise. If I could show her a way to stay within her calorie goals but eat what she enjoys, would she be more compliant? She said “Yes.”

My outline for her was 3 eggs for breakfast, a McDonald’s cheeseburger (no fries) and she could have her Wonton Tacos OR she could have her alcohol (not both.)

This put her just below her allotted caloric goal per my recommendation and the recommendation of her nutrition coach.

Now, neither I or Client B are under any illusions that this is a healthy way to approach weight-loss. These aren’t exactly healthy options BUT they are calorie controlled options. There is very little room for error.

What we are looking for with Client B is adherence and some degree of happiness (and less resentment) about how she’s eating. Both she and I believe that once she gets some more weight loss momentum, that she can start to add some healthy foods in as substitutions as she sees fit.

It should go without saying that both Client A and Client B are in two different places with weight loss. They are both looking to overcome completely different obstacles. Client A needed more awareness with total caloric intake to get her momentum back and Client B needed a diet she could actually follow that still gave her a sense of enjoyment.

And after giving the reigns back to Client B, she said it best when she told me: “It was the best day in a long time that I felt in control but not guilty.”

This is monumental.

Every client of mine has different hurdles for weight loss. Some people tackle them swiftly and permanently, some have more hiccups along the way. That’s just human nature and it makes no client worse or better than the other. We all learn together and it’s about the feedback we can then educate ourselves better with.

Below is Sammy. She celebrated a massive low of 45 pounds down since she started with us. She is neither Client A or Client B but she deserved some celebration for kicking ass on her weight loss journey so far.

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Revolutionary You! #215-Leigh Peele: Energy Matters (For All Sizes, Ages And Problems)

Back for the fifth time (see episodes #28, #118, #150 and #200), Leigh Peele is back as we deep dive into the dirty C word: calories. We talk about how and why energy matters for the purpose of weight loss, how it gets misconstrued and some of the pitfalls we can avoid so that we don’t get caught in a trap of not achieving our weight loss goals. To learn more about Leigh’s work, please visit http://www.leighpeele.com You can find out more about your host at http://www.jasonleenaarts.com and http://www.revfittherapy.com You can also like our Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/revolutionaryou Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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The Tyranny Of Procrastination (Lessons From Book Two)

Last year, I knew I was ready to write my second book. My first book (released in 2016) was written under a very tight and very short deadline. There were things I was immensely happy about that with project and things I wish I could have done differently.

Nevertheless, it’s out and there’s no changing it at this point.

I knew my second book would go much differently.

Over the years that I’ve hosted my podcast, I continued to gain more wisdom and inspiration from my guests. I would hear things during the recording, the editing and the playback of those episodes and I wanted more people to embrace the knowledge my guests were giving.

Podcasts aren’t for everyone. Some people choose to digest information from other means and maybe they just don’t want to take the time to sift through hours and hours of content just to get some guidance on their health journey.

After reading Ryan Holiday’s “The Daily Stoic”, I had a clearer idea of what I wanted “Book Two” to be. I wanted to extract quotes from as many of my episodes as I could and craft something of a daily motivation/meditation for the fitness enthusiast.

By the beginning of 2019, I had a plan.

I would take as much time as I could to go back through all 200+ episodes of my show and start extracting the quotes I wanted to use.

I knew that my time was limited so I made a vow to discontinue listening to other people’s podcasts so I could focus on my own. I also planned to spend less time listening to music for pleasure and reading so that I could devote more time to my writing project. I didn’t want to rehash the urgency with which I had to work under for my first book.

And I did get some work done…it just wasn’t enough.

I kept busying myself with a host of other tasks and pushing the book to the backburner.

So, January passed, as did February, and so on.

I made it to the beginning of August and realized I had barely made a dent in my project.

As you can deduce, it would take 365 quotes from each of my guests plus 365 of my own thoughts to complete each day in a book like this.

As of August 1st, I had just over 100 quotes pulled for the book and none of my own writing done.

For me, this was unacceptable.

The hope was that I could have the book ready for purchase by December of 2019. That way, anyone who purchased it could begin their own path with the book officially at the first of 2020.

So, I needed a new strategy to mark my completion.

I broke down into days how many quotes I would need to extract and reach the 365 total. Then I gave myself a goal for my own writing quota.

I also reached out to my closed community on Facebook.

I knew I needed to hold myself accountable to my goals and if I threw my obstacles out to my clients, I would be more inclined to get the work done.

With over 230 quotes I had to pull (starting from August 1), I completed them all by the end of that month. Each day, I blocked an hour off to just spend time listening back through episodes and extracting the quotes I wanted to use in the book. I knew that if I didn’t block the time off, I would find ways to waste time and not get my work accomplished.

After I pulled all the quotes, I spent roughly a week reaching out to all of my guests asking for permission to use their words within the project. The response was overwhelmingly positive. It renewed my fire and focus to keep my nose to the grind and not slow down.

Then, admittedly, I had a hangover moment.

I had worked so feverishly on the first part of the project that I felt completely uninspired to write my own portions.

But, as I mentioned before, the book had to be ready for purchase by December of this year. My own (undiagnosed) OCD wouldn’t have it any other way.

So, I took the advice I’d give to any client: Bring the work down to bite-sized chunks.

Each day, I write 6 pages. Nothing more, nothing less. It gets me to a finish line in November where I have time for edits and sequencing. I know I could write more than 6 a day but I want my mind fresh.

In comparison to blogging, where I can write as much as my heart desires, I’m forcing myself to be very brief in the book. I want the spotlight to be on the wisdom of my guests. I simply wanted to shine a light for added guidance and context.

While I am disappointed in myself for essentially wasting the first seven months of this year and not making the progress I had anticipated, I’m glad I got my ass in gear before it was too late.

When you look at your goals, how have you scheduled the work?

Are you procrastinating (as I did) and not making the progress you want?

Take your goals and start blocking off time to achieve them.

This could look like:

Scheduled time for meal prep: Block off time each week to make easy meals that can be frozen/refrigerated so you’re less likely to leave your food choices up to chance. If need be, ask for assistance from your spouse/loved one if they have more time to apply to this than you do.

Appointments set for exercise: When you treat your exercise (strength training/cardio) like you do your doctor’s appointments, you’re less likely to miss and cheat yourself out of the work you need to get you closer to where you want to be.

Reasonable timelines for reaching your goals (such as 4-8 pounds of weight loss per month): Could you lose 20 pounds in one month? Sure. Is it worth it? Probably not. When you set realistic and reasonable goals for weight loss, you have a better shot at success that you can sustain. The goal is not just to get to “X” weight but to keep that weight off and look/feel the best you possibly can.

Potential times to reset your goals and/or maintain status quo: Based on what is currently happening in your life with work, family, and friends, you may not be able to white-knuckle your way to your end goal. There may be certain points where you need to take a breather and maintain where you are to reduce the stress of your goals. Much like my aforementioned “hangover”, I needed a few days to reset and refresh my mind so I could get back to work.

Keep yourself honest: Utilize a support group as I did with my closed community. Set a goal, break it down into achievable steps, and put the work in. I can only be held accountable to myself since the book will be self-published so the only metaphorical gun that will be held to my head is the one I hold. This means, the only person capable of reaching my goal is me. When you take that control back for your own goals, you have a clearer sense of autonomy.

Don’t let the tyranny of procrastination stand in your way.

“A Revolution A Day” will be released in December 2019.

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Revolutionary You! #214-Mike Battershell: Finding Your Why

In this week’s episode, I spotlight my longest standing client/friend, Mike Battershell. He’s been with me nearly nine years and we have seen each other through a lot in that time together. We discuss changes in his physique, diet, training and how he has adapted to all of the changes that have occurred during the evolution of this business. Mike’s own journey of self discovery is quite and inspiration and he talks about the importance of finding your why to be successful To learn more about your host, visit www.jasonleenaarts.com and www.revfittherapy.com You can also like our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/revolutionaryou Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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You Have To Take The Training Wheels Off Your Diet

When you were first being taught how to ride a bike, you likely learned in stages. It would have been some version of a tricycle and you had to learn how to move the pedals in effort to propel yourself forward. The risk of injury was low.

Then you progressed onto a “big kid” bike.

With that big kid bike came the option of training wheels. Now, you’re in charge of a much larger piece of equipment but with the safety measure of those smaller wheels so you didn’t have to worry about falling.

You still had to master the skill of maneuvering something bigger than a tricycle.

And then the day came where you took the training wheels off. It’s that first exhilarating moment where you were wobbly, excited, intimidated and well on your way to your fair share of bruised knees, shins and anything else that could be impacted by some hard earned tumbles trying to get your bearings with two wheels only.

Your diet isn’t much different.

Sure, we all learn how to eat long before we embrace a tricycle.

And, we can usually get away with a fair amount of dietary luxuries at an early age too.

But something changes as we get older. Maybe it changes when we’re adolescents and maybe it doesn’t change until we’re adults. But we just can’t eat the way we used to and expect to have the bodies we want.

That’s a hard pill for a lot of people to swallow.

Because there is something about eating that seems like it should be this natural, safe, instinctive behavior that just works for us.

Which is why it can be so incredibly frustrating to take a behavior or set of patterns like eating and stick training wheels on it when we’re 20, 30, 40 or even 60 years of age in attempts to change it.

What does that look like in practice?

It may mean you have to track your food for a short amount of time to see your dietary trends.

It may also mean that you have to measure your food to see what an appropriate portion size actually looks like (specific to your needs and respective goals.)

You may have to reduce the frequency with which you go out to eat because it can be difficult to ascertain how many calories you’re consuming (even with a margin of error for places that are kind enough to post calorie counts.)

You’re essentially taking your eating behaviors within the framework of your life and putting training wheels on it again so that you can teach yourself the right way (and the safest way) to do it.

And that’s great for a refresher.

But at a certain point, those training wheels will have to come off.

You re-learn and refine a skill so that you can pull the trainers off and get back to riding. Or in the case of your diet, get back to living.

The biggest difference is that once you learn how to ride a bike, you basically never forget. You may be a little wobbly if you haven’t been on one in a while but the instincts come back rather quickly.

Navigating your diet is a more complicated skill to learn because (for most people) there is too much of an emotional connection to it. We eat when we’re happy, when we’re bored, when we’re stressed, when we’re tired, when we celebrate and even when we mourn.

Your goal, the ultimate goal, is to trust yourself with the way you eat. It’s to trust that you have coping skills in place to replace things like emotional eating when life gets stressful.

It’s also to remind yourself that you can’t do whatever you want with your diet and not have your body pay a relative price for it.

It’s okay to put your “training wheels” on periodically to adapt your way of eating to where your life and body is currently. What you could do when you were younger is likely no longer effective or it’s not as effective as it used to be.

That’s not just with diet, it’s the same for exercise too.

A body that has decades of mileage and stress on it doesn’t behave the same with activity and food as it used to. It doesn’t mean that you have to pivot 180 degrees, but change will occur.

Change HAS to occur.

Much like you learned how to ride a bike in those three stages referenced above, your diet will go through stages of change where you initially need more help and guidance so that you can develop the confidence and insight into how you eat to serve you (and your goals) best.

And just like bike riding, it may take some tumbles and spills before you get it right.

It’s all normal. Which makes you normal and it’s all a part of the process.

Below is Sebastian, showing you his first stage in riding. He’ll support you on your journey too. And yes, at two years of age, he can eat pretty much whatever wants and have no ill effects.

The same can’t be said for you and I.

Nevertheless, we’ll be rooting for you.

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Revolutionary You! #213-Ruby Cherie: You’re Not The Person You Used To Be

Back for the second time and after nearly two years from her first appearance (Episode #96), coach Ruby Cherie joins me this week. In this week’s episode, we talk about different perspectives and tools for progress beyond the scale, a focus on better digestion and hydration, and taking the person you are today (not the person you were in the past) and learning how to move the needle forward for that individual to reach goals. To learn more about Ruby’s work, check out http://www.facebook.com/rubyreneecherie and on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/rubycherie.coachingspecialist To learn more about your host, check out http://www.jasonleenaarts.com and http://www.revfittherapy.com You can also like our Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/revolutionaryou Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Don’t Ever Tell Someone They’ve Lost Too Much Weight

When I moved back to Ohio to start this business in 2009, my Dad decided that was when he wanted to lose some weight. He didn’t have a lot to lose, approximately 30 pounds. I was trying to find a location to set up shop in and I needed a place to train in the meantime.

So, my father and I got a membership at a local gym that had a low monthly rate and opened in the wee hours of the morning so that we could get a session in and he had time to get to work after.

It took my Dad approximately a year but, slow and steady, he lost all the weight he wanted to and he looked and felt the best he had in years.

After he hit maintenance, he had back-to-back surgeries spread 6 weeks apart for carpal tunnel syndrome. The surgeon requested that he stop exercising for the time being so that no sweat got into the place where incisions were made.

My father did as requested and a strange thing started happening.

He kept losing weight.

He hadn’t made any more changes to his diet and he had drastically reduced his level of activity.

This was the first sign that something was wrong.

We would soon find out that he was dealing with effects of multiple myeloma.

We kept the news quiet for sometime and just within our close friends and family.

One day, a neighbor saw my Dad walking outside and he said something along the lines of “Hey, Paul! You should probably stop that diet you’re on. You look like hell!”

At which point, my father, ever the diplomat, informed the neighbor of his diagnosis.

*take foot…insert in mouth*

I ran into said neighbor sometime later and he apologized profusely for making an incorrect assumption about my father.

Not unlike people who ask a woman with some “extra” around her belly when she’s expecting, there are some things you probably should keep to yourself.

With my clients, just keeping the momentum is difficult enough in and of itself. Some people have to contend with the unsolicited feedback of others that can potentially derail their efforts.

It’s this part that I find especially frustrating.

From an outsider’s perspective, when you see someone who is trying to improve their health, weight loss to some degree is likely part of that conversation. If you’ve become accustomed to seeing someone at a higher weight, even drops of 10-20% below their starting point can show dramatic differences.

At some point, genetics take over and there may be more looseness of skin in certain places or simply areas that don’t get as firm as one might like (especially if you’re using strength training to combat this.)

But here’s the thing (and I say this lovingly): it’s none of your business how much weight someone loses unless their health is in jeopardy (which is determined through a doctor.)

I know there are those with legitimate concerns like anorexia nervosa but this article is not about that. For those individuals, please seek the guidance of a general practitioner and a therapist with specialization in eating disorders.

For the weight loss client, what they need to hear is words of support, words of kindness and words of empathy. Not words that potentially trigger sabotage or make someone feel like their hard work and effort in improving themselves is a lost or unworthy cause.

Below, you’ll find a picture of my client and friend, Laura.

Laura has been training with me for over 4 years and had already seen great weight loss before we started working together. She works a very active job and manages to fit in 3 days of strength training with me in addition to hiking frequently as weather permits.

As her wedding day was approaching, Laura got her game face on and focused on hitting her calorie goals to reach her desired weight goal. She was motivated, determined and consistent with her food intake and her activity level. She even had to overcome the obstacle of a freak injury that occurred outside of the gym just months before her big day.

We worked around the injury and kept her focused despite the fact that it would have been so easy for this to derail her hard work.

Even leading up to her special day, she had people tell her:

“If you get too skinny, your wrinkles will show more.”

“You don’t want to get too much muscle because it will look ugly.”

“I liked you better when you looked normal.”

Do I need to say it? This is unacceptable.

For some people, they’ve waited months, sometimes years and sometimes decades to achieve a body they can be happy with. To have anyone look down on them when they’ve neared the finish line is appalling.

But I’ll you decide for yourself. I think Laura looked absolutely radiant on her wedding day and I’m not the only one there who thought so. She lit up the room.

And as proud as I am of what she accomplished, she deserved more acceptance than what she got.

Anyone does who’s trying to improve themselves.

If you want to be helpful, be helpful. And as the adage goes: if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

But as for us, we accept everyone, we applaud everyone,  we help our clients get to their goals because they earn it.

“We Make Great People Greater.”

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