Our little man, Sebastian, turns nine this week.
He is only weeks away from starting third grade and while some things about him have indisputably changed, some things are very much consistently the same.
He still LOVES to fish. Give him a pond, a lake, or an ocean, and he wants to be there, fishing rod in hand, bait nearby, and more lures that you can possibly count to bring them in with.
He is an absolute adrenaline junkie. Over the last couple of years, his desire to ride the biggest, fastest rollercoasters has only been tempered by the fact that he didn’t have the height to be able to ride them. This past year, and certainly this summer, that all changed. He’s now tall enough to ride nearly everything his heart desires and he loves every single one of them. Credit goes to his mother who has the digestive fortitude to be able to ride the coasters with him, because if Dad hops on any of those rides, I’ll be tasting my last three meals for the second time.
He is a video game fanatic. This has remained true for awhile now. Much of his time is spent in the world of Minecraft and Roblox, playing and building with his friends. As I write this, we are preparing to enroll him in coding classes so that he can learn how to build games on his own and flex his mental muscles so that his hobbies aren’t just for play, but education as well.
He still loves to read. Second grade showed us that not only could he evolve as a reader but Sebastian started to tackle more complex books to deepen his comprehension. While he doesn’t read quite as many books as he once did, he makes up for it with overall word count and levels well above his age. If there’s anything to be said about genetic trees, it sure does help that so many people on both sides of our family had professional careers in education.
And I know nearly every parent says it, I’ll confirm my own bias: he’s still just a really sweet, considerate, intensely curious, and compassionate guy.
There are times that Marissa and I wonder if there’s anything we’re doing wrong with how we raise him and anything we could be doing better, but often we just remind ourselves that after nine years of parenthood to Sebastian, he just seems to be a really good kid.
He loves his big brother Jackson, just as he always has, but one thing I’ve noticed as each of them has gotten older, is that, with each year, they fall into a more comfortable groove with each other. Sebastian may not have known how to adapt to autism as Jackson has expressed it, early on, but he’s slowly learning how to communicate, how to play, and how to support what his brother is going through.
Time isn’t slowing down, but we’re all here to embrace the next year of adventures.
Happy birthday, sweet boy, we all love you so very much.









