Thriving As Perfectly Imperfect

I can trace this all the way back to the years I spent recording music. I was willing to work and polish and refine only so far and then I was done.

There would be no more takes and no more overdubs. If there was a break in my voice on the track or if my guitar didn’t sound as bright as it could have on a chord, I wasn’t going to go back and change it.

There was something about the natural feel of a raw, less than perfect sound that I was going to leave intact for eternity.

Because once the album or the song was out, there was no going back. It would be that way forever.

When I was still trying to make something of myself as a singer/songwriter, I sat down with a management company and listened to a man who I had a great deal of respect for tell me “The best songs are re-written.”

And I refused to believe him.

I was very possessive about my lyrics at the time. Something that I have realized I was very short-sighted about. Once the lyrics were done, there was no changing them. I wasn’t going to change the title, the lyrics, nothing.

What the management representative wanted was for me to tinker with the lyrics until it was more like what they wanted. Change a chorus here, switch the title to this instead of that, they wanted it perfect.

I wasn’t hearing it.

Thankfully, I’ve matured (slightly) in my old age.

Where I no longer write songs, I now write articles like these. They are part of my current creative outlet.

But there is still a part of me that is fully willing and 100% committed to putting the less-than-my-best out there. Rather, I am putting out the-best-I-can-right-now.

There are coaches in this industry who I have so much love and respect for who will go back through their previous output and either edit or delete anything that is not excellent. They only want their best work out on the internet.

I understand the logic.

If the first thing someone sees of my work is an article that is not my best, how does that resonate with them? Is there a second chance for a first impression?

To be honest, I don’t really know.

And perhaps I’m leaving money on the table by not changing my perspective.

But I am willing to be less than perfect in the eyes of anyone who consumes my output.

Regardless of whether or not my articles are perfect, they come out every week.

I put the time in, consistently.

And I know that I improve.

Maybe not with each new article but over time.

And, I would challenge you to approach your health and wellness path in a similar way.

It’s ultimately what I ask of my clients.

Don’t worry over whether or not it’s perfect. Just put the time in.

It’s less about going on autopilot or simply going through the motions and more about making routines and habits the norm rather than the exception. Let those routines become so instinctive that you no longer have to worry about limited resources like…willpower or motivation.

It does take caring at least enough about your process to streamline the “less than perfect” with the “better than you had hoped” and everything in between.

But you don’t really know what you have to give until you start doing it.

I have a lot of clients who don’t perfectly hit their caloric intake or (if they utilize them) their macronutrient targets yet they still lose weight.

I have a lot of clients who come into the gym feeling less than their best and still break previous personal records.

Sometimes you just have to show up and do what needs to be done.

And yes, sometimes you need to recover: get some sleep, eat some quality food and attack on a better day.

The picture below is our resident, Ken who just took over the top spot in squat with a 375lb single. It was a-w-e-s-o-m-e. Not too bad for a guy who claimed he hadn’t quite recovered from his weekend.

If we had been waiting around for Ken to feel 100% to break his previous squat record I don’t know when it would have come. By the way, what in the world does feeling 100% even feel like?

Challenge yourself, today, to put your perfectly imperfect self through the work.

And chances are, you’ll see what we see nearly every day at RevFit: people succeeding.

“We Make Great People Greater”






Revolutionary You! #131-Alan Aragon: Pros And Cons

Alan Aragon is arguably one of the most in demand and sought after individuals in the fitness industry. He is the founder of the widely respected Alan Aragon Research Review where he and a panel of experts from the field delve into what current research and studies tell us about nutrition. He is also the co-author of The Lean Muscle Diet with former guest Lou Schuler. Alan was kind enough to take a break in his busy schedule to chat with me and I decided to make this a different type of episode from what we normally do. I made a list of different people, ideologies and perspectives pertaining to health and wellness and Alan divulged the pros and cons of each. This is an episode both entertaining and educational with Alan taking decades of work in the field to give you a candid insight on each topic. To learn more about Alan’s work, visit To learn more about your host, check out and You can also like our Facebook page at Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Bred For Convenience, Doomed To Failure

Several times a week, I get that dopamine hit.

That instant surge of gratification from 1-click purchasing, drive-thru ordering, scan-and-pay apps…you know what I’m talking about.

We more than just a nation built on convenience, we’ve nearly dominated the planet with it.

We wanted faster, we got that.

We wanted fewer steps to get our desired result, here’s your hack.

And those little convenient tricks, hacks and apps give us exactly what we were looking for faster than we’ve ever had it.

Yet, it doesn’t exactly work that way for weight loss.

Well, let’s be honest: You could always have bariatric surgery and bypass that whole “diet” thing.

And bariatric surgery does, in a way, give that quick fix.

As if there were anything convenient about weight loss, those types of surgery might be the only remotely sustainable and fast method out there. Not foolproof, mind you, but faster than months of caloric restriction to get to a desired bodyweight.

Although the catch is, you do HAVE to stay low in calories for the rest of your life if you want the surgery to stick.

But there is that nagging feeling of purism with weight loss. The feeling that “I did it the old fashioned way.” You know, the slow, painful, arduous way of cutting intake and moderately raising caloric expenditure?

Therein lies something of the problem.

We’ve built our expectations around getting what we want as fast as we can get it but our body betrays us when we apply Amazon Prime-type expectations to our physiques.

And this is where I have to remind you: weight loss (or weight maintenance) was never going to be about what was convenient for you. While it would likely serve you best to not live in extremes (severe caloric restriction or a propensity for only high-intensity exercise), we can’t seem to wrap our heads around the fact that the “I-Want-It-Now Syndrome” can’t apply to every facet of life.

But what I can encourage you to do is to make the process as convenient as possible and still just uncomfortable enough to elicit change.

So if you’ve not been successful at planning all of your meals over a given week, try focusing  on the problem areas of your daily intake.

Let’s say it’s dinner. Can you plan for one or two different options to get you through a week and work with leftovers? Can you stop from snacking or having a dessert after you’ve finished dinner? These things matter. And they don’t require calorie counting. They just require conscious change and some ability to be proactive.

“But Jason, I hear what you’re saying…I’m just SO busy.”

I feel you. I do. The little bit of extra labor it will take initially to recalibrate your focus will be worth it. Most of my clients are, when asked candidly, aware of the areas that need to improve in their diet.

Can your spouse/significant other do the meal planning so you don’t have to think about it? I mean, what’s more convenient than someone else doing the work for you?

“But Jason, I’m not a good cook.”

Yeah, I wasn’t a good cook for a long time either. While I enjoyed it, I didn’t have the confidence to do it regularly. I wrote something about that in this article. Now, I do the majority of the dinner cooking at our home.

And this is what I mean by stepping slightly (not skydiving) out of your comfort zone.

These are YOUR goals and YOU have to determine how you will navigate towards them.

Can you cut back on calories by not snacking in-between meals? Cool, try that for a while and see if the scale rewards you.

OR, maybe you need to snack in-between meals so you are not having second helpings at dinner. You’ll want to determine if that’s a challenge for you.

You’ll also want to consider making sure your family and friends are in the loop about what you’re trying to change. I can’t begin to tell you how many clients I have who desperately want to lose weight, and tell me how supportive their family members are, only to be bombarded by food/drink at the first sight of a bad or stressful day.

“Oh you had a bad day? How about we just go out to the restaurant, order an appetizer and a beer and by the way, I’ll have the hamburger and fries.” (Holy sh*t, did I really just eat 2150 calories in one meal???????)

Yes…you did. We won’t dwell on it.

But let’s be real for a moment. I don’t have a single client who is actively trying to lose weight that doesn’t know how counterproductive restaurant food can be to a diet. Can it be done? Yes. But it’s difficult and remember: we want convenience.

So, this is where you have to make those hard decisions: do I want what I want when I want it or am I going to sacrifice that incessant need for the dopamine hit of convenience and do the things it takes to succeed?

My kind suggestion it to be willing to leave the conveniences that life affords you to things like shopping so you can free up the time it takes to value yourself, your goals and your results.

“We Make Great People Greater”





Revolutionary You! #130-Diana Kidd: I Don’t Fear Death

I have the great pleasure of sharing time with fellow trainer and coach Diana Kidd. This was a very special episode for me because I have been following Diana’s work for some time and have always found her base of knowledge and insight to be similar to my own. That being said, Diana has been going through her own personal struggles and I really wanted to bring her on the show to share this with listeners. To learn more about Diana’s work, you can connect with her on Facebook at To learn more about your host, visit and You can also like our Facebook page at Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Small But Mighty (Sydnee’s Story)

When Sydnee started with me a few months ago, I really had no idea what to expect from her. Her mom, Debra, has known me for about as long as I’ve had my business and while we have always stayed connected via social media we rarely crossed paths over the years.

So, it was a pleasant surprise when Debra reached out to me to explain the challenges Sydnee was trying to overcome.

Sydnee is 12 years old and is active in gymnastics. She is, by my account, a smaller framed young lady, very quiet and reserved until she gets to know you. In my case, she’s still somewhat quiet and reserved but that is slowly changing.

However, my definition of smaller framed and the definition given by her gymnastics coaches must vary wildly. Sydnee is outgrowing the other girls in her class. At a mere 107 pounds, Sydnee is reaching a point where her body is ready to mature but her gym mates are well behind her.

When it comes to all of the bar work required to advance at gymnastics, Sydnee has been struggling. The pull-ups, muscle-ups, and toes-to-bar exercises have all become vastly more difficult.

And when Debra reached out to me, these were the bulk of the issues they were hoping I could fix. Debra said, in no uncertain terms, that the coaches weren’t exactly nice in their criticisms either. It’s my understanding that’s it not uncommon for Sydnee’s fellow gymnasts to cry during their sessions either because their bodies cannot perform the exercises or the coaches are completely unforgiving, perhaps both.

This is where the touchy part comes to play. Debra asks me, “But she shouldn’t be dieting should she?” “No” I said, “Absolutely not. There’s nothing wrong with Sydnee’s weight.”

And as a coach, these situations infuriate me. Historically, I haven’t worked with a ton of youth athletes. I’m very cognizant of what it was like for me when I was that age and having a build and a skillset that didn’t lend itself to great performance at sports.

But to see Sydnee, someone who is obviously shy and not in control of how and when her body would grow, I sure as hell wasn’t going to give her that experience at our studio.

I said to Debra and her husband, Dan, “I’m not sure if I can help. This is a new situation for me to to work with. But I will do what I can to get Sydnee stronger and more confident in what her body is capable of. If we’re not seeing progress, the data will speak for itself and I may have to outsource her to someone else.”

So, the relationship started there. Due to Sydnee’s schedule, she would typically come in to the studio during peak times and while there weren’t other children here her age at that time, she has continued to walk in to see a room full of people with a similar goal: to get better than they were when they walked in.

As with a lot of our clients, she’s had her time in the trapbar: a piece of equipment that you have definitely seen a lot of if you follow my posts. The first day she tried it, she was able to pull her bodyweight successfully without any hesitation. That was promising.

And we’ve tried a lot of other things too. We continue to train her whole body: legs, back, chest, shoulders, core, etc. Little by little, Debra has said that some things are improving in gymnastics although it has not been at the rate that I think anyone had hoped. So, little by little, we keep doing what we can to get Sydnee stronger and more capable.

She is not disappointing.

One day, Debra and I watched as Sydnee continued to pull more and more weight in the trapbar. I kept asking her, “How does that feel?”

Sydnee, in typical quiet fashion, would just shrug her shoulders and say “Fine.”

“Want to try a bit more weight?” I’d ask.

Another shrug of the shoulders.

“Does the weight feel easy?” I’d continue.

Sydnee’s head would nod. Debra and I would look at each other as if to say “Well, if it’s easy let’s bump it up.”

And we have.

If you read my article from a few weeks ago, Ladies Of Iron, I have already tipped my hat to how things have progressed.

One measuring stick for a traplift or deadlift is to see if someone is strong enough to pull double their bodyweight. The power and focus required to do so is not easy. It takes time to get there and you generally can’t accomplish it by accident. For some, depending on their starting bodyweight, it can take a year or so just to keep pushing the needle forward.

And last week, Sydnee, who I have recently dubbed “Steel Sherman” did it. All 12 years old and 107 pounds of her pulled double bodyweight (215 lbs.)

It was incredible.

A week prior, I somewhat said in jest to Debra within earshot of Sydnee, “You know, if for any reason this whole gymnastics thing doesn’t pan out, I think Sydnee would be a great person to bring to a powerlifting competition!”

To which Debra replied “Maybe she can do both!”

I like the way she thinks.

Now that we have a handful of clients who have their sights set on competing in their first meet, Sydnee would be roughly 14 years of age when that competition would be a reality. I think she can do great things at one.

But I will say, something has definitely changed with Sydnee. She doesn’t have the same apprehension that she did when she started. I think and hope that she has found that when she’s here, she’s already won. There’s no derision just support.

And she’s obviously attracted the attention of any other client who is here because, to be frank, they’re ALL rooting for her.

I mean, how can you not? This is not the same 12 year old who first came through these doors.

But maybe I’ll let Debra’s words say it best in a text sent to me just after Sydnee hit her personal record.


So, keep your eye on her. I’m expecting you’ll see a lot more accomplishments from the youngest member of the RevFit family. Who knew that this quiet and rather shy gymnast would be such a dominant force to reckon with once she got introduced to some strength training?

“We Make Great People Greater”


Revolutionary You! #129-Jim Hart: Training The Over 50 Active Man

Jim Hart joins me this week bringing decades of experience to the episode to discuss considerations for training men over 50 years of age. As we continue to learn more about the human body and the aging process, Jim has continued to refine his approach from exercise, to diet and supplementation with his clientele. Tune in to find out more about how he has continued to be effective with this demographic. To contact Jim directly, you can reach him at and you can learn more about his work at To learn more about your host, visit and You can also like our Facebook page at Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Show Your Scars If You Want To Heal

It was Memorial Day Weekend, 1996.

I had just stormed out of my house after an argument with my parents. The topic of which has escaped me but I would imagine it was not as dramatic as I made it out to be back then.

I had recently been put on Prozac to combat some feelings of depression I was going through at the time and it wasn’t working.

In reality, it was making me worse.

As I recall, it was raining hard that day. I got in my car, hopped on the expressway and drove.

I didn’t know exactly where I was going, I just knew that I had to get away from my family. I had reached a point where I no longer felt I had any value to anyone. It was as if all I needed to do was erase myself from whatever life I was living and just end it all.

So, I drove faster.

I was getting more and more anxious trying to figure out how in the world I could end my life in the fastest, most painless way possible. I was already in pain (or so I told myself) and I was convincing myself that my parents would be better off without a worthless son like the one they had.

Not coming up with any foolproof conclusions, I pulled into a convenience store.

Crying, rattled, and angry, I walked into a phone booth, called 911 and told them I wanted to kill myself.

I don’t know how the police handle those calls in 2018 but back in 1996, they didn’t screw around. Several police cars pulled up to the booth within minutes and it scared the hell out of me.

I asked “Why are so many of you here?”

The officer who came to me first said, “We don’t take suicide calls lightly. For all we know, you could have had a bomb strapped to you.”

Point taken.

I was escorted to a local hospital and put into a room by myself while my parents were contacted with my whereabouts.

This would be my first of four hospitalizations that year. All under the threat of, or the attempt of suicide.

I couldn’t seem to get the appropriate medical help to fix whatever the hell I felt was wrong with me. I was in and out of different therapists offices, prescribed a mountain of different medications (none of which worked) and I could no longer function at college so I dropped out in the fall of that year.

I still have this faint scar on my left wrist that sits conveniently under my watch strap from a failed attempt. I am thankful it is faint but I am also thankful it’s still there.

I need that reminder.

Over the years, I have become more open and vocal about what I went through that year and what I would continue to go through with episodes of depression for a handful of years to come.

Fortunately, I found a doctor to set the record straight on what was going on with me. It was mostly that I was undergoing some circumstantial problems that I didn’t know how to cope with. Relationships (both intimate and social) would determine my value and worth in this world so if the relationships failed, my faith in myself did as well.

I’m an only child, so if I had succeeded in taking my life, it would have removed the one thing my parents brought into this world with the exception of their love for one another.

As I write this post, I am twenty years removed from my last hospitalization (five in total.) I have not been on medication for about as many years as well.

The end of 1996 marked the beginning of my very lengthy drug addiction which would carry me all the way until 2006, so while I was not on prescription medications, I did successfully self-medicate because I still had not developed coping skills to manage my emotions.

I talk about these things openly because there is much of my past that I can’t hide behind. It is my life. It is what shaped me to be the person I am today, for better or worse.

I know that many people in this world need to be on medication to stay functional. It is my hope that they are in the right hands and on the right medications. If not, please seek further help and do not stop until you get it.

On the heels of recent suicides like Kate Spade’s and Anthony Bourdain’s, I see many of my friends post the number for the suicide hotline. I guess that’s a good thing. I never called it. I never figured they could help me.

I write about my past troubles because it’s cathartic. I also write because I don’t expect my memory to get better with age and I want these words for posterity.

While I believe that many people who have suffered through similar problems as mine would benefit by having an outlet like writing (or meditating, exercising, etc.) to uncover their own demons, I also am aware that many need to keep those demons behind doors lest they reveal something that becomes a trigger for more trauma.

It took me years to understand that my perceived value in this world would be determined by me and me alone.

Coming to that conclusion was hard. It was also necessary.

In fact, I didn’t come to that conclusion until around the time I met the woman I now call my wife.

On the heels of the dissolution from my first marriage, I had a son who I loved dearly but I mistakenly put my value of self into his hands. This was a short-lived mistake.

Around the time that I met my wife Marissa, the switch had been flipped. Never again would I put my health, my well-being and my emotional stability into someone else. That’s not disservice to her. It’s to her benefit…my boys as well. I had spent too much of my life wondering why in the hell I couldn’t find happiness and solace that was worth a damn.

It turns out, it was just like the adage implies: it starts from within.

I would love to wrap this open letter of sorts up with some tidy tips for getting out of the hole you might be in. I don’t have tips. Not on this subject.

What I can say is this: if you’re at a point in your life as I was with mine, walking into the phone booth hoping for resolve, you have to keep fighting. Your battle won’t be won by opting out of life. You’ll simply be putting more of a load on the people in your life who care about you. And yes, no matter where you are and no matter who you are, someone cares about you enough to be devastated by your loss.

What I’ve found is that many of the people who feel alone in their suffering are not alone at all, they’ve just closed themselves off in isolation, choosing to suffer alone rather than ask for help.

That I had a father who refused to accept that I was broken and kept looking for better therapists when I didn’t have the wherewithall to do it myself was huge. In 1996, I saw no fewer than 5 different therapists in two different states before we stumbled on the one who worked. And even when he did “work”, I still had more issues to sort out. It wasn’t as simple as flipping a switch and voila I was healed.

It took months for that doctor to wean me off medication, it took more months of trying to establish a base level of coping mechanisms to understand that I couldn’t use bad relationships as the impetus for suicide.

Someone once claimed I was lucky I didn’t have to be on medication anymore. I say, you’re lucky even if you’re on medication if it allows you to be the best you can be around the ones you love.

But I cannot impress this one thing enough: Change took time.

These are things my wife cannot relate to. Of the many things she and I have done with our lives prior to meeting one another: our backgrounds, our struggles, my wife cannot begin to understand how someone can be so down on themselves that they just simply can’t go on. I am grateful she doesn’t have an inkling of knowledge about that.

I have a past. It’s not pretty. I had to learn about myself through it. I HAD to have an outlet. I am fortunate that these outlets have not betrayed me.

But I also have an open door here at RevFit. If you’re struggling and you need to talk to someone who’s been through shit in their life, the door is open.

The conversation is free.

“We Make Great People Greater”

P.S. And besides, if I had left this world when I wanted to, how on earth could I have ever experienced the joy and beauty of my wife and the two incredible gifts I hold in my arms below?







Revolutionary You! #128-BONUS-Meghan Callaway, Sarah Duvall and Kellie Hart: Glutes, Core, Pelvic Floor

It’s the triumphant return of three former guests, all very amazing women: Meghan Callaway (previously featured on episodes 62, 89, and 118), Dr. Sarah Duvall (previously episode 68) and Kellie Hart (previously episode 20.) They have teamed up to release a brand new project to the masses which will be coming out this week. Tune in to find out the details of their new program “Glutes, Core, Pelvic Floor” and get ready for promotional pricing for a very limited time. To learn more, you can check out the website Also check out and to learn more about my guests. To learn more about your host, visit and You can also like our Facebook page at Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Revolutionary You! #127-Holly Perkins: Cultivating A Personal Sense Of Strength

Holly Perkins is the author of the Women’s Health book “Lift To Get Lean” and is a widely celebrated trainer based in California. She joins me this week as we discuss the importance of strength training for women and diving into a better understanding of how to create the best mental foundation to make it work. While her message is focused on women in fitness there are some great takeaways for anyone looking to improve where they are currently with their own health and wellness. To access the offers Holly mentions on the episode and to learn more about her work, check out her sites and for the programs she referenced, visit and To learn more about your host, visit and You can also like our Facebook page at Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.

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Ladies Of Iron

As I have watched my business evolve since we opened in 2009, there have been a lot of shifts in the fitness industry. By most accounts, the industry itself could still be considered in relative infancy so it makes sense when old-fashioned and ill-informed philosophies change over time.

It wasn’t that long ago, that women were advertised to in efforts to do more aerobic work, lift light weights, and basically have no mention whatsoever of how to make them stronger…just smaller.

Perhaps I should credit avenues like CrossFit or even American Ninja Warrior for bringing to the forefront the rise of stronger, more capable, fearless women.

And it has shown, little by little, in the conversations I have with women who come through my door looking to change their current physical and mental state.

I rarely, if ever, hear a woman say “I want to be toned.”

In it’s place, I am hearing (much to my joy) “I want to be/feel strong.”

And I’ll be damned if we won’t make that happen.

It has always been inspirational to me to see my clients get stronger. For our fellas, maybe it’s a foregone conclusion that they will get stronger. But for our ladies, it’s a special kind of inspiration to see this new breed who want to achieve more than just a smaller body.

They want strength? We can train that.

Over the last several months, not necessarily by intention, I have been posting more and more pictures of our clients (male and female) doing impressive traplifts, squats and bench presses (the arguable best bang-for-your-buck exercises.)

As I have done so, I have more people talking about them. And the more they talk, the more they want to be involved.

If I just look at my landscape of female clients currently on the roster, the age range spans from 12 years of age to 79. And while my 79 year young client does not partake in those big lifts, she continues to add weight to her programs. Increment by increment, she is improving. Age means nothing.

We have one young lady who is 12, two who are 13. All three of them are uniquely strong. It is SO impressive to watch them progress.

My eldest woman (67) who is still playing with the traplift, just hit a new PR (personal record) of 220 a couple of weeks ago. I find that particularly awesome. That’s more than one and a half times her body weight.

Our twelve year old, is very close to pulling a 200lb traplift, nearly double her current bodyweight. I find that particularly awesome too.

Last week, I had scheduled clients in a compact session time without realizing the effect of what I would see. In just under one hour, we had a room full of women (ages twelve to 50s) who were all working on separate programs, all here to get stronger, feel better and just genuinely be badass. The camaraderie, vibe and support during that short amount of time was really a spectacle to behold. I was the only guy in the room training all these amazing women to be better than they were when they walked in.

I have said this before and it bears repeating, not everyone is built for or in the right condition (currently) to lift heavy. That is perfectly okay. Strength can be measured in other ways.

But I will tell you, if the body can improve and the mind will allow, a strong, unbreakable woman is like no other force known to man (sorry fellas, you know I’m right.) 🙂

So, I will leave this post with a collection of shots of our ridiculously strong women, our “Ladies Of Iron.” This is not all of our female clients, and they all deserve to have their pictures shown but this is a glimpse of one of the many reasons why what I do and who we serve is so immensely gratifying.

The strength movement is changing, the landscape is shifting, the results will be phenomenal.

“We Make Great People Greater”