Fellow coach and podcast host (see The Lifestyle Chase), Chris Liddle makes his debut on the show this week. I wanted to hear Chris’s perspective and take on how the pandemic has been affecting him both personally and professionally. He brings the angle of being an independent trainer working for a larger facility in Canada and I wanted to see how coaches like himself were adapting to all of the changes. Chris is as down-to-earth as they come and I loved hearing how he was able to find the positive in so many potential negatives during this time. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
Returning to the show for a record 7th time, Meghan Callaway is back (see Episodes 62, 89, 118, 128, 150 and 198). In this episode we talk about her most recent program release “The Ultimate Push-Up Program”, how she continues to push the envelope with her own training and why embracing the stages of progressions and regressions is so important with exercise. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
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There was a certain amount of solace in starting this business in 2009. I’d overcome a lot and endured a lot to come out on the other end of things relatively unscathed.
Last year, when I went back to therapy after many years away there were things that were starting to slip through the cracks. Come to find out, you can busy yourself with a life but that doesn’t mean you’ve successfully solved your problems. I know (and train) some very busy people who have yet to conquer their demons.
I haven’t conquered all of mine.
It’s why I’ve always had a fondness for and connection to people who, like me, have some emotional bruises from the life they’ve lived. For my weight loss clients, who live their own share of struggles, food was the cope when they couldn’t handle the pain.
For me, it was drugs, it was messy relationships, it was a poor grip on finances, it was everything I could involve myself in that made me forget about me.
The longer I’m in this industry, the more I gravitate towards my fellow coaches who aren’t afraid to say: I’m depressed, I was suicidal, I can’t get out of bed because of my anxiety, I can’t stop self-imploding…
And these are really, really good coaches. Kind, compassionate, selfless human beings who would do anything for their clients only to break down to pieces when they go home at night.
It’s an immensely gratifying career, to be a coach. It’s also tough to take the pain of others, help them sort their way through it, and find a way to not “take your work home with you”.
There are things I’ve been learning about myself in therapy that are hard to justify after 44 years on this earth. Things that will take me years to solve and sort through and clean up.
Because, like a lot of my clients, I always know how to make a mess of things in spite of myself.
And if you’ve ever “failed” on a diet, despite already seeing progress towards your goal, you’ll know exactly what I mean.
What the pandemic has shown is that clients and coaches have been smacked in the face with a lot of emotional turmoil they were never prepared for. Uncertainty is a painful hand to be dealt.
It’s made me dig my heels in a little bit further to understand the how’s and why’s of my clients; the things that make them tick and derail their progress, just as I have tried to understand the same things about myself.
It helps, in my case, that I found a therapist who could not only be a sounding board to me but has always been relied on to ask me questions I don’t know how to ask myself. Like me, he has his own personal history and the gaps he worked to fill in for himself.
I continue to applaud the work of coaches in this field who aren’t afraid to show they’re struggling. Sure, food and exercise may not be problem areas for them. That doesn’t mean problem areas don’t exist.
And as we take the hands of our clients to show them new ways to thrive, new ways to feel healthier, new ways to feel empowered, it’s with that voice in the back of our minds (and often in our messages) that we don’t coach perfection, we coach progress.
I joke with my therapist constantly about the parallels I see with the struggles I have and how they mirror the struggles my clients have: “Is this what my clients must feel like when they do ‘X’?”
It’s learning how to break the loops of negative feedback and negative behaviors.
It’s learning how to forgive yourself when you fuck it up again (and you will).
It’s learning how to live with yourself as a perfectly imperfect being who’s just trying to get one stubborn foot in front of the other.
Pandemic or not, great clients struggle to succeed.
Great coaches do too.
If we can all recognize some of the fragmented areas in our lives to say: I accept you how you are, let me help you get further along…we’ll end up in a much better place.
Maybe we’ll feel a little bit less damaged when we get there.
Nikki Naab-Levy joins me for her third time on the show (see episodes #147 and #164). She is a PMA-CPT Pilates teacher, licensed massage therapist, and certified functional strength coach with over a decade of experience helping clients build strength and overcome injury. She holds a B.S. in Exercise Science and a B.S. in Magazine Journalism from Ohio University. Her fitness wisdom has been featured in Girls Gone Strong, The Seattle Times, and Men’s Fitness. She is a Master Trainer for the Balanced Body Bodhi Suspension System and has presented for national conferences and educational organizations including Fusion Pilates Edu and the Pilates Method Alliance. When she’s not teaching a sneaky hard Pilates class, you can find her using her journalism experience to help fitness professionals and movement teachers navigate the internet and find creative and effective ways to market their services, classes and online programs. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
Count me in among the many who have been trying to acclimate to “The New Normal” with this pandemic.
Professionally, it’s been about trying to provide the best services we could to our clients despite the transition from face-to-face training into the virtual landscape. We’ve learned that, now more than ever, our clients are working from a different foundation of “What can I handle?”, “What do I need?”, and “How long will this last?”
Sometimes, we’re trying to answer all of those questions within the same breath.
Just like we, as health coaches, know that every weight loss client is working with a different skill set, background, and mental readiness to achieve their goals, these same clients are learning how to manage their own expectations against these goals when things aren’t quite how we ever imagined they’d be.
As each week passes, we encounter another element to the great unknown of “When do we get to have something normal back again?”
I know that the moment we get the green light from our state government, we will be working with somewhat reduced capacities at RevFit. There will also be the inability to hug someone to say “Welcome back. Thank you for sticking with us. We missed you!” The words will be there but the physical touch will not.
So, it’s led me to question my own place in this.
When has anything in my life ever been normal?
The answer: rarely ever.
From my upbringing, the trajectory of my life, the coping mechanisms, addictions, outlets for stress, hobbies and interests, I’m not sure any major area of my life has ever been “normal”.
Why should this time be any different?
As I have said to at least one client and even on my podcast, we’ve all been dealt a slice of turd pie…some of us just got frosting.
Almost every day now, on social media, I’m seeing another report of a fitness facility, independent trainer, or small chain gym shut down. Many of these locations and individuals have been in business for years. They’re not new to the industry, they’ve accumulated the accolades from years of success and there is no possible way they can stay afloat right now.
This makes the reality even more surreal. Many who were successful within this industry will transition into completely different fields, maybe they’ll move into “pandemic proof” arenas where they can count on a paycheck. Those who choose to remain in the industry despite shutting their doors will embrace, to whatever degree of success, what a virtual platform can offer.
We may never see the pre-COVID normal ever again…not as far as the fitness industry is concerned.
There was a belief prior to this pandemic that the country was due for another big dip, similar to the economic fallout in 2008. While some predicted this to be the case, COVID was not the reality they anticipated even though they knew that something was going to knock us all down a peg.
As some states are starting the gradual process of reopening which allows businesses to start following suit, we’ll see if the somewhat aggressive measures to distance ourselves from one another end up doing the good that was intended.
On my podcast, I’ll be continuing to talk to others in the industry who I admire and respect: those who were working in box gyms, those who work primarily in the virtual realm and those who had, prior to COVID, what appeared to be dream businesses.
Because no matter who they are, they’ve been affected. We all have. And speaking on behalf of every person operating in the fitness arena, we’re looking for answers.
I had to take a hard step back and remind myself of this whole idea of “normal”. If I’ve never been used to it, why would I want to go back to it? The things that have allowed me to thrive have been the few things in my life I had some sense of control over: my schedule, my time management, my sleep patterns, my diet, and my training.
Did the pandemic affect those things? 100%.
It also allowed me to shift my focus and ask: How do I make this whole situation work?
When the state government does allow us to open and be more active in public, there is no guarantee that this won’t come back later. Even if the curve is flattened, something else will happen. Maybe not this year or next, but just as those “in the know” were preparing for another economic downturn, we’ll be faced with another challenge that affects the way we operate: within the fitness industry and outside of it.
So, am I wanting life to return to normal? No, I want more ways to deal with the abnormal.
Maybe that’s the thought I want to leave you with: prepare for the blips, the deviations and the crises. They’ll come, whether we want them or not.
And to reframe it in the words of one of my clients: Doing the best you can, under the circumstances has got to be enough.
Below is a picture with my son, Sebastian, doing our best to not be normal.
For this milestone 250th episode of the show, I went for a client spotlight. I’ve worked with the McIvor family in some capacity for most of the time I’ve been in business. Over the last couple of years, I’ve had the great pleasure of working with Hugh McIvor, who we affectionately call “Mr. Grit”. Anyone who trains here at the studio that has crossed paths with him knows how and why he continues to inspire the rest of us. After listening to this episode, I have no doubt you’ll understand why. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
It feels strange celebrating the 11 year anniversary of RevFit. Starting this year, we were continuing our trend of year-by-year growth. That’s an amazing thing to think about.
Then, we spent the last half of March and all of April watching the Coronavirus affect nearly every possible industry including our own.
While we did make the transition to online/virtual training, we saw how those available options affected our clients in different ways. Some were okay with having personalized workouts based on the equipment they had available at home. Others had no desire to purchase equipment and needed workouts they could do with minimal props and just bodyweight. Still others just wanted touch points, 1-2 calls via FaceTime or Zoom each week to catch up and get over some psychological hurdles.
We even experimented with a Virtual Happy Hour and a Virtual Coffee Hour on the weekends.
The most important thing was to find a way to stay connected, stay as positive as possible and stay engaged. I’ll be the first to admit, it wasn’t easy.
We officially celebrate 11 years on May 1. So, I write this post with an eye on the fact that we will be re-opening sometime in May.
We will be limiting capacity initially and slowly getting clients back into the fold back into some sense of pre-Corona normal.
I want to also celebrate this anniversary by giving gratitude across two fronts: to our clients and to my staff.
To our clients: You have made us who we are today. It was one thing to be able to provide a service to you during “normal” times. It was something else altogether to continue providing at least a complementary service when we were closed.
To those who were able to financially show support during that time: Thank you. We will reciprocate that in every way we know how.
Many of our clients took a financial hit during the virus. Personal training is a luxury for many and, of course, it made sense when that expense needed to be deducted from the lifestyle under the circumstances. We stand by you and support you and we do hope, that when it is financially feasible again, that you return when you’re able. You will always be welcome back with open arms (well, you know, social distancing aside…)
To my staff: Over the past year, I have had the great pleasure to work side-by-side with Luke Whittenberger, Emily Blidy and Mike Roder.
To Luke: Last year, Luke accepted an opportunity to continue his studies in a Masters/Phd program at Ohio State University to become a physical therapist. We miss him and I know he will go on to do great things in that field. Thank you, Luke, for the time you spent with us and helping improve the lives of the clients who were fortunate enough to work with you. As we have continued to stay in touch since you left, I do hope our professional paths cross again. You will always be RevFit family.
To Emily: When we first connected, we knew that the opportunity to work together was well into the future. Emily would be completing her masters in dietetics and I knew that she would only have limited time to be a part of the work we do here. I went a slightly different route with hiring Emily. Rather than hire someone with a background in Exercise Physiology (as I did with Luke and Mike), I hired someone with a greater degree of nutrition insight than I had. Fortunately, she had an athletic background and love for sports performance. Emily has been excellent for us. Unfortunately, the ramifications of the virus forced us into a position where she had to prematurely end her face-to-face tenure with us. It has been my hope to continue having Emily as a part of our crew for as long as she would like even though geographically, her career has called her out of the state. Emily, I wish you the very best as our “resident” dietitian. You will always be RevFit family.
To Mike: Mike joined us right after we expanded into our current location (fall of 2017). He started as an intern, referred to us from one of our clients (Thank you, Shon) and found his groove rather quickly. Mike has always needed very little direction. He catches on quick and I’ve always tried to give him credit for seeing things I don’t see and helping to teach me things I don’t know. I guess if I’ve learned anything from all the years of having this business, it’s to continue to hire people who have strengths I don’t have and perspectives I can also learn from. Mike finished his Masters last year in Cardiac Rehab. While he still has his eyes set on that field, it’s been a great joy to see him build up his clientele of youth athletes. Like Emily, Mike has a true love for athletic performance. You can see that come through in the time and effort he spends with his roster. Mike, you have taken it upon yourself, without cue, to help make every other trainer who has stepped foot in these doors feel like they have the tools they need to succeed here. I greatly appreciate that you take the care of this business into your hands as if it were yours. That is an invaluable trait. I know that your career, at this point, can go a lot of great directions. I know you will do exceptional work wherever you go. These doors remain open to you for as long as they serve you well. You will always be RevFit family.
To everyone who continues to read my articles, purchase my books, listen to my podcast and engage with us across social media platforms: Thank You.
Whether you are a current client, a former client, or a potential future client (online or face-to-face), we’re coming to the other side of strange, unprecedented times. Thank you for your support in every way you have given it.
You don’t get to celebrate 11 years in business by accident. You celebrate it by helping as many people as possible to the best of your ability; by learning what you’re good at and improving but also to recognize your weaknesses and shore them up as well.
Thank you to everyone, who has made this possible.
For this week’s bonus episode, I welcome the debut on this show of author and trainer K. Aleisha Fetters. She has a brand new book out called “Fitness Hacks For Over 50: 300 Easy Ways to Incorporate Exercise Into Your Life”. We talk about her inspiration for writing the book and how well it can work for so many people who are currently having to workout from home. Aleisha does an amazing job of incorporating fun into everyday movements and stepping outside of what would be considered traditional exercises to compile her list of 300. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
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Josh Hillis returns for his fourth appearance on the show (See episodes 71, 121, and 186). This week, we are talking specifically about his brand new book “Lean & Strong”. We tackle a section of that book related to what Josh calls ‘The Wise Five’. This episode is coming out nearly a year to the day of our last episode together where Josh was already teasing some of the information presented in this book. It is a highly recommended read as Josh totally outdid himself with this project. Download, subscribe, share with your friends and please take a moment to leave us an iTunes review.
To purchase “Lean & Strong” go to Amazon.com or www.otpbooks.com
In last week’s article, there was something I touched on with regard to diet strategies and things to work on when weight loss isn’t necessarily the conducive route to follow. I wanted to elaborate some more on this strategy in hopes that it helps some of you.
Because of the nature of my work, I read a lot of books about diets, food psychology, healthy habits, you name it. There is one topic that has come up so frequently that when I see it, I just acknowledge it and move on. The reason being, that I have suffered with this issue for most of my adult life.
And that topic is the speed at which I eat.
Most of you know that before I started this business, I spent 16 years in retail. 13 of those 16 years was in a managerial role. And if you’ve ever worked in retail you know that things like meal breaks don’t come the way they should. So, one nasty habit I picked up along the way was absolutely inhaling the food in front of me.
There’s a story I’ve told before and I’ll share it again if you haven’t heard it. There is a little BBQ place that I pass on the way home from work. When they first opened, I was there at least twice a week. I loved it. So, when I would leave work, en route home, if I knew my wife would not be home for dinner, I’d hit up the BBQ joint. Without fail, I would order my food, eat it at a speed that made you think I’d never seen food before and head home.
One night, one of the employees, unbeknownst to me, was watching me eat. When I finished in my typical frantic pace, I got up from my seat to throw the containers away and she said “You are the fastest eater I’ve ever seen!”
Needless to say, I was a little bit embarrassed. Of course, that didn’t stop me.
A few days later, I was back again and the same employee was there. I ordered my food and went right back to my default pace of consumption. When I was done, the employee said something to the effect (I don’t remember the exact number) of: “That took you 3:40 to eat!”
Yes, she timed me.
Yes, it was also embarrassing.
Yes, I finished my entire meal in less than four minutes. Not exactly something I carry a badge of honor over.
And I think the reason why I’ve never embraced eating slower, even though conceptually I understand why someone should do it, is because I’ve never needed to lose weight. Why embrace a concept that doesn’t really affect me?
Except it does.
On a social level, anytime I eat with others, I am normally the one staring at my empty plate while others are barely halfway through theirs. I also couldn’t tell you any specifics of what the food tastes like. It’s either tasty or it’s not (more on that later).
I literally put my fork down after every bite. I forced myself to sit, and chew, and taste and smell and just be present.
It was extremely difficult to do.
One thing that helps is to not eat in front of a screen. No TV, no phone, etc. Just sit with your plate and whoever else you’re dining with and set your fork down after every bite.
There’s a belief (it’s somewhat arbitrary) that you need to chew the food about twenty times. This was a novel concept for me too. It’s not easy to do.
If what you’re eating doesn’t require a fork, rather your hands and fingers, the same concept applies. Let’s say it’s a sandwich or even a cookie. Take a bite, set the food down, and just chew. See if you pick out flavors, pay attention to what you smell, and just try to enjoy for a moment.
I’ve noticed that I can’t put as much food on my fork now either. When I was eating with reckless abandon before, I couldn’t pile the fork high enough. Now, I am forced to pick up less. I simply cannot chew as much when I’m doing it deliberately, thoughtfully.
One thing that I have to do, lest I forget, is I have to remind myself right before the meal starts: SLOW.DOWN. It’s something of a mantra and it reminds me that regardless of how hungry I am (or think I am) I need to slow my pace down. The food isn’t going to walk away.
A rather shocking (although I shouldn’t be shocked) effect of this, is that by and large, you will eat less. Your body will have a chance to register fullness. This is HUGE.
The first meal I did this with was dinner on a Saturday night. We ordered BBQ from a different place and typically I would have been able to down those foods in a shamefully fast fashion.
But I didn’t. I took my time, I chewed my food several times and I set my fork down after every bite.
Oddly enough, the food didn’t taste as good. This was kind of surprising. I actually, normally, like the food from this place. But when I took my time, the food just tasted mushy and somewhat flavorless. That was disappointing but there is an upside.
Years ago, I read a book written by a doctor who I generally don’t pay a lot of attention to. However, he also embraced this eating slower philosophy and used it in a slightly different manner.
He had a weight loss patient who refused to give up on fast food. So, he asked the patient to make a small compromise: Order whatever you like from the fast food establishment but I want you to take twenty minutes to eat it.
Getting his patient to slow his pace down so dramatically not only gave the patient pause, but the patient realized that the food didn’t taste good at all when it’s not being devoured quickly.
Shortly after this experiment, the patient gave up fast food altogether.
So, if you’re looking to try something while we have time on our hands, I would suggest this tactic. Put the fork (or food) down after every bite. Spend time chewing. Don’t eat in front of screens. And re-assess. You will probably eat less which means you will probably lose weight.
Jason Leenaarts 